It’s no question that the key to a happier life is to first find happiness in the life you are already living. That’s why it’s so important to make yourself your own number one priority. I mean, if you want to be your best for others, then you need to first be your best for the most important person in your life… you! You gotta start loving yourself first before you can truly start to love others.
If you ask most people whether or not they actually love themselves, many will probably respond to you and answer yes. Unfortunately, however, this is often not true. Most people will often find something to criticize about themselves before they find something positive. I would know as this was me for many, many years.
The people who answer yes are the same people who will look in the mirror and find ugliness before finding beauty. The people who answer yes are the same people who will wonder why they can’t do something instead of finding reasons for why they can. The people who answer yes are the same ones who will grab their love handles and think of themselves as “fat” instead of loving and embracing every ounce of their bodies.
It all comes down to caring about what other people think about you. You were not born with these beliefs of being ugly, being unsuccessful, or being fat. All of these are beliefs instilled into you by other people. The worst part is that while many of these beliefs are both untrue and crippling, we tend to listen to them.
If you care about what other people think of you, or if your happiness depends on the acceptance and love of others, then you do not actually love yourself. You love yourself for how much others love you, but you don’t actually love the individual you already are.
When you truly love yourself, it doesn’t matter what people think about you. You do not care whether others think your ugly, unsuccessful, or fat because you know that being you is your greatest strength. The opinions of others will never define how you feel about yourself or in your abilities.
To truly be happy and successful in life, you need to start loving yourself first. Once you accept yourself for who you are, for all of your strengths, and for your weaknesses as well, an emotional weight will be lifted off of your shoulders, and you can start focusing on being the best version of you that you can possibly be.
Why It’s Important to Start Loving Yourself First
Okay, aside from the personal impact, what are some other reasons as to why you should start loving yourself first?
1. Loving Yourself Gives You Control of Your Life
Once you learn to let go of what other people think about you and start loving yourself first, you gain this sense of control over your life. You no longer depend on others to pave the way for you. Instead, you look within, define the life that you want to live, and start taking action towards achieving that life.
Taking control of your life means you are always looking out for your best interest. It’s not to say that you are selfish and don’t care about other people. It simply means that you know that if you want to be your best for others, you first need to be your best for you!
2. Loving Yourself Increases Your Self-Esteem
When you start loving yourself first, you learn to let go of what other people think about you and start standing up for you and your beliefs. You find your voice, and no matter how hard someone may try, they will never be able to take that away from you.
Loving yourself increases your self-esteem in all areas of your life. You feel more confident in your appearance, you start making stronger and more confident decisions, and you start taking risks on yourself because you really don’t care whether or not you make mistakes. When you are confident in yourself, there’s no such thing as failure, only learning opportunities.
3. Loving Yourself Leads to Your Overall Success
To be successful in life, you need to be willing to accept the fact that you are going to make mistakes. If you do not make mistakes on a daily occurrence, you simply aren’t trying hard enough.
Loving yourself will help you to find the confidence to start taking risks on yourself. If you want something that you don’t currently have in life, you need to start doing something you aren’t currently doing. Taking risks and having the belief in yourself to at least try is the only way you are ever going to achieve success.
4. Loving Yourself Helps You Find Your Life’s Meaning
You can’t find your true life’s meaning if you continue to allow others to define the choices you make and the life you live. If you do, your life will only be a reflection of the various beliefs that others have instilled in you.
Once you let go of everybody else’s opinion of you, you will be able to look within and uncover the truths in which you believe in. These beliefs will help you to find a purpose and meaning in your life. No longer will you need others to tell you what to believe. You will have your own beliefs to drive you forward, and they are beliefs that you will actually be passionate about.
Before You Go
Is it hard to let go of what others think about you? Yes. It’s something that we all struggle with no matter how much we love ourselves.
The next time you find yourself relying too much on what others think of you, simply recognize how you feel, bring awareness to the thoughts you allow to pass through your mind, and remember that being you will always be your greatest strength.
When you start loving yourself first, it is you, your beliefs, and your goals that define the individual you are. You will start to become your best self, and only once you do this can you then be your best self for others as well.
Make it your mission today to start loving yourself first.