I want to share with you a quote that has really resonated with me here over the last week or two.
It’s a quote that has helped me to manage my stress to some extent, has allowed me to find a sense of happiness, and has given me a sense of clarity while being able to regain hope.
It’s no question that life isn’t always easy. Forget about it ever being perfect, there are going to be days where we are going to have to scratch and claw our way through the day just to get by.
But the quote that has really resonated with me lately is a variation of Chester L. Karrass’s quote;
“In business, you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.”
The one I am referring to is:
“You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you tolerate.”
Take a moment and think about that quote deeply.
You Don’t Get What You Deserve
If you were to ask me, I believe that everybody deserves to be able to live a life nothing short of spectacular. A life of opportunity, a life of learning, and a life that is free of pain, hardship, and struggle.
Personally, I believe that an eternal life waits for me after this life is over, and it is then that my life will be free of pain, hardship, and struggle.
But this life is different. In this life, there is going to be pain, hardship, and struggle. There are going to be days that are hard to get by, and there are also going to be days in which you want nothing more than to relive.
If you are reading this, reflect on how fortunate and blessed you are to have the ability to read this. I would assume that you are making $38,000 or more on a yearly basis, and if so, you are then in the top 1 percent of the wealthiest individuals in the world.
I’m not going to lie, if I made $38,000 or less on a yearly basis, I would struggle mentally. I don’t know how I would get by with the consumer-based lifestyle that I have chosen for myself, and I would probably start seeing myself as a failure.
How crazy is that to see yourself as a failure when 99 percent of the world would love to be in your position? 99 percent of the world deserves to have the same opportunity, privileges, and chances that I have had in life, but the reality is that they don’t.
This goes to show that you don’t get what you deserve in life. If you got what you deserved, nobody would be living in poverty, sadness, or struggle.
What About The Wealthy?
This isn’t to say that the wealthy don’t deserve to be where they are at in life either. The wealthy also experience challenges that 99% of the world doesn’t experience. There are sacrifices that many make in order to accumulate the wealth that they have, opportunities that they have missed out on, probably even relationships that they have had to separate themselves from.
So this isn’t to say those who are wealthy don’t deserve to be wealthy. This is simply saying that is everybody had what they deserved in life, we would all have all that we could ever want.
You Get What You Tolerate
This is the part of the quote that has really hit home with me.
I am a firm believer that anybody can be whoever or whatever they want to be in life.
Are people born into different circumstances and have more opportunities readily available? Yes. But if you don’t like where you are at in life, it is up to you to change your life.
There are stories of individuals who have come from nothing and who were seen as nothing, who took their lives and turned it into something. One might ask how one individual was able to manage such a change, and it’s because they began to tolerate less of anything that wasn’t going to lead them towards living the life they envisioned for themselves.
Personally speaking, a lot of the stress that I have been experiencing is due to work, a change of environment, and various family situations. Instead of finding an outlet to release these emotions (something I am normally pretty good at doing), I held onto them until they grew in strength and took over my thoughts.
What’s helped me to slowly overcome the stress that I was feeling has been a change of perspective. I have tried to see my life in a different light and focus on how blessed I truly am in life.
Sometimes the answer may not always be as easy as a change of perspective. Sometimes the answer might be having to change your surroundings, the people you associate yourself with, and the environment you spend your time in.
If you don’t feel like you are living the life you deserve, that’s a change you need to be willing to make. You are allowing yourself to be in that environment or allowing yourself to have that mindset; you are tolerating it, therefore, you are only going to receive what comes with it.
Before You Go
Change isn’t easy, especially when that change has provided you with a sense of comfort for as long as you can remember. But if something isn’t providing you with the life you envision for yourself, then change is necessary.
Remember, you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you tolerate. Start tolerating less of anything that is not going to get you closer to where you want to be, and only then will you get more of what you deserve.