Why is it important to find balance in life?
This is something that I have been struggling with lately. I know it’s incredibly important to find balance, but I have been having such a hard time doing so.
Every time I try to sit still, my mind immediately begins thinking about what I could be doing with my time and what I should be doing with my time to help get me closer to my goals.
Let’s just say that I am a person who loves to work and has an incredibly difficult time sitting still for long periods of time.
This constant stress and pressure that I put on myself has been starting to catch up with me lately. I am always tense, always on-edge, and just feel like I am carrying around this invisible weight on my shoulders.
What Is Vasovagal
Right around the time I was graduating from college and decided to move out to Utah, I was told by the doctors that I had a condition called Vasovagal syncope. It’s just another thing to add to my already growing repertoire of medical conditions…
Vasovagal syncope is a condition that leads to fainting in some people (a.k.a. this guy). It is also called neurocardiogenic syncope or reflex syncope and is the most common cause of fainting. Although it’s usually not harmful, it’s super annoying to live with and quite scary when you are going through an episode.
There are many nerves that connect with your heart and blood vessels. These nerves help control and regulate your heartbeat, and they also regulate blood pressure by controlling whether your blood vessels widen or tighten.
Usually, these nerves coordinate their actions so you always get enough blood to your brain. Under certain situations (times of high stress), these nerves might give an inappropriate signal. This might cause your blood vessels to open wide. At the same time, your heartbeat may slow down. Not to get into the nitty-gritty of it, but blood can pool in your legs which leads to a drop in blood pressure, which leaves not enough blood being able to reach the brain. If that happens, you may briefly lose consciousness. It isn’t until you lie (or in my case fall down) that blood flow to the brain resumes.
Living With Vasovagal
For me, I experience these episodes when I get incredibly stressed for long periods of time. Usually, I am relatively good at being able to control it and prevent an episode from occurring, but since my life has been a bit chaotic recently, it’s been a challenge for me to be able to deal with.
After just making a cross-country move home, I decided to go to the doctor’s office right away and have a minor operation on my mouth. I was in the doctor’s office having just completed the appointment when I began to feel dizzy.
This has happened to me before and I should have known better, but I closed my eyes because I felt overly tired. The next thing I remember, I was waking up minorly seizing and could hear the doctor trying to rush his nurses into the room.
After not having an episode in years, I had completely blacked out in the doctor’s office and had experienced an episode.
Ever since then, it’s been happening more often than not. I will just be sitting down and will begin to feel dizzy and almost “out-of-body.” I could be in public and know that I have to find a place to lie down otherwise I may be falling down…
Why It’s Important To Find Balance
So what does all of this have to do with finding balance?
All of this just goes to show why having balance and being able to find balance in life is so important. Working too much and always being under constant stress and pressure can really be detrimental for not only your productivity but your health as well.
I will admit that part of the reason I have been under so much stress and pressure lately is because I want so badly to achieve the goals that I have laid out for myself. While all of the stress and pressure that I have been feeling is self-inflicted, it’s beginning to feel as though I am literally working myself to death and am not even conscious of my day-to-day life anymore. The stress and pressure of life is beginning to catch up to me again, and it’s beginning to impact my health.
That’s the risk we all face when we struggle to find balance. When we put ourselves under constant stress, we can begin to slowly feel as though we are losing all control of our lives, or even worse, we could begin to jeopardize our health. We forget to enjoy the one life we are living, and we forget to focus on what’s truly important to us in the first place.
How To Find Balance In Life
Now, as you can clearly tell, I am not somebody who has this whole balancing life thing figured out. But I do want to share some of the things that I am beginning to focus on in hopes that they help me to get back on track and start feeling better again.
Step 1. Learn to relax
This is something that I don’t do enough of. But I am beginning to realize that it’s okay to allow yourself to relax. We need to relax so that we can allow both our bodies and minds to recharge and refocus.
You can only drive a car for so long before it runs out of fuel and stops running. The same thing goes for our bodies and mind. As challenging as it may be, we need to allow them to relax so we don’t burn ourselves out.
Step 2. Take On Less
I have big goals and dreams, but again, I will admit that I sometimes find myself taking on too much at once. Aside from working a 9-6 job, I also blog daily (something I don’t see myself quitting), have a desire to start podcasting, want to venture into YouTube, am trying to maintain a social life, am trying to be a good brother, uncle, and son, and am trying to just be all of these different things.
Stresses you out just reading all of that, doesn’t it?
Imagine what it’s like living with this mind that never seems to be able to slow down.
I am having to look at myself and ask myself what’s truly important. The truth is, I don’t know if I have enough energy to be all of these things – at least not without risking my sanity.
Sometimes, we take on too much and say yes to too many things that we dig ourselves into a hole. There’s nothing wrong with saying no to things you simply don’t have time for. Just be open and honest with yourself so that you can give your very best to the things that matter most to you.
Step 3. Listen to Your Body
If your body is telling you that it’s tired, sleep. If your body is telling you that it wants to move, exercise it. Whatever your body is telling you, listen to it. It is your temple. You only get one of it, so listen to it and let it tell you when it may be time to scale back.
Step 4. Enjoy Your Life
I can’t believe I am saying this, but there is more to life than work. As much as you may want to achieve and as large of goals as you may have, don’t forget to enjoy your life and every day that passes. Just like your body, the life you are living now is the only one you are going to get. Cherish it, make memories, and be present. Life is already short the way it is. Don’t let it pass you by without ever looking up.
Before You Go
These are some of the things that I am having to focus on. Is it hard not to constantly be going 100 mph? Yes! I thrive on keeping myself busy. But it’s also important to find balance and enjoy life. What’s the point of living if you don’t get to at least enjoy the life you are living?
Now, to conclude this, I want to share something my mom shared with me while I was telling her how I was feeling. This is what she texted me:
“Sometimes, the more we push, the more our dreams elude us. And we get so tunneled that we don’t have the opportunity to live and perhaps find what our true passion is. God has a plan for us. Are you pushing your plans or God’s? Ask Him tonight in prayer. And listen. Sit in His rest.”