When Self-Development Does More Harm Than Good

when self-development does more harm than good
when self-development does more harm than good

Daily Blog #255

Self-development sounds like a good thing, right? I mean, who doesn’t want to live the best life that they can possibly live? Who doesn’t want to be a better individual each and every day? Who doesn’t want to dream and achieve everything that they want to accomplish in life? I know, it all sounds amazing.

I have been on my “self-development” journey for roughly seven months now. Needless to say, these last seven months have been the best seven months of my life. I have grown in more ways than I could have ever imagined, found a love for life that I never knew I was capable of finding, and have found a belief in myself that I thought was nonexistent.

But believe it or not, self-development is not always a good thing. In fact, self-development can sometimes do more harm than good. I know that statement is somewhat contradicting, but let me explain what I mean by this.

There are two instances in particular when self-development does more harm than good. The first instance is when we want something so badly, but we aren’t willing to work for what it is that we want. The second instance is on the opposite end of the spectrum, and comes when we try to overly improve our well-being, and forget to appreciate life for what it is.

Whether we want to be healthier, whether we want to get in shape, whether we want more money in life, or whether we just want to be happier, if we are not willing to balance out the improvements that we are wanting to make, it can actually set us back further than where we currently are.

We all do this. At least I know that I do. I want nothing more than to live a happy life, be successful, and help others to live their best life as well. It is what I am passionate about the most. But you also have to look at it this way, if I am working non-stop to improve myself, and to improve the lives of others, will I even know what improvement would look like?

When we continue to push ourselves to improve on every little aspect of life, not only will we lose appreciation for the improvements that we have already made, but we will also lose appreciation for the characteristics that make us the unique individuals that we are, and for the blessings that already surround our lives.

The key to self development – balance.

We can all talk about the changes that we want to make in life, but let’s face it, if we are not willing to actually pursue these changes, they aren’t going to happen. It isn’t going to be easy, and we are going to have to work incredibly hard for what we want in life, but always remember that if it has been done before, it can be done again. Even in the odd scenario where it hasn’t been done, then be the first to do it.

On the other hand, we can all talk about the changes that we actually are making in our lives. But again, let’s face it, if we are talking about our improvements, and giving every ounce of our attention to the things that we want to improve on, is it even improvement? Odds are that we will just be replacing one negative habit with another.

So remember – balance. You can do anything that you set your mind to, but don’t forget to live a balanced life. Enjoy the progress that you are making, realize all of the blessing that already fill your life, appreciate the incredible being that you are. You are capable of achieving all of your wildest dreams, you just need to be willing to believe in yourself, and follow life that makes you the most happy.

Michael Bonnell

1/10/2019

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