Be kind and love others.
Let me tell you a little story about judging others and how it can backfire on you very quickly… So just sit back, relax, and enjoy! Oh, and read.
There’s this guy. His name is Michael. Well, Michael just so happens to be my name too. No, I am not talking about myself. I am actually talking about the newest member of my family, my brother-in-law. Yes, we share the same name. And yes, it does get very confusing at family functions.
This last weekend, my sister got married to her best friend. She married a man who treats her like the amazing person that she is, a man who loves her for who she is, a man that would do anything for her, and a man that I used to judge.
We all know the saying, ‘Never judge a book by it’s cover.’ Well, I didn’t just judge a book by it’s cover. I judged a book without even looking at the cover. I judged a book without even knowing the genre of the book. And it backfired.
To be honest, Mike has never been anything but nice to me. Every time that he has been around me, he has always gone out of his way to not only treat me like a friend, but also like a brother.
I mean seriously, if I would ask him for help with something, this guy is the type of person who will immediately drop what they are doing to come and help. I realize that this sounds like a love story, but I swear, it isn’t.
The truth is, I never truly hated Mike. In fact, I was mainly just jealous of him. It made me jealous that one person could walk into a room and immediately lift up the spirits of others. It made me jealous that someone outside of my family was there for them more than I was. And it made me jealous that he could like people that he showed him absolutely zero decency. Now I am talking about me.
Instead of learning to like him and welcome him into our family, I blinded myself from seeing the good in him. Instead, I focused only on what I could find wrong with him. I would point out every little thing that I could just to make myself feel better.
I would even talk behind his back, and then have the nerve to ask him for help when I needed it. Well, the greed backfired, and I am glad that it did. The last time I used Mike, I got robbed. I got robbed of a phone, and I got robbed of greed. That is a different story for another day…
But despite that, guess who was the person that chased after the people that robbed me because he didn’t want to see someone else hurt? Guess who was there for me every second that night? It was Mike. The person that I judged.
It wasn’t until I, in my life, started focusing on positivity and accepting others that I started to accept my soon to be brother-in-law. Do you want to what happened when I actually gave him a chance and got to know him? It seems crazy, but I actually liked the guy. Not only do I like him, but we became what I consider to be close friends.
Mike has become a person that I go to for help, a person that I go to for advice, and a person that I go to when I just need a friend to talk to. But best of all, he has become a brother to me.
There are times where we go to sports games together, watch games on tv together, or just go to the bars and have a beer. The sad thing is that I almost lost this relationship because I was too ignorant and too blind to try and find the good in someone. Someone that has a lot of good to show.
What I am trying to get at, is that we should never judge others no matter who they are. Every single person on this planet has good inside of them, and every single person on this planet deserves to be seen for that good. You just need to be willing to give them a chance. Who knows, maybe you will not only get a brother-in-law out of it, but a brother as well.
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