I always assumed that when somebody was happy, that meant that they were happy 24/7. Part of me craved that life because I had assumed that if somebody was happy in life, that meant that they never felt any hardships.
For somebody who was struggling with negative emotions on a frequent basis, all I wanted was to know what it felt like to be happy.
Perhaps I struggled to find happiness in life because I would suppress my feelings and think that I shouldn’t have negative feelings. I resisted them, fought them with all of my might, and kept them locked away in the back of my mind.
Well, we all know what happens when we decide to do this. Eventually, we reach a boiling point and explode like a loose cannon.
It wasn’t until after years of dealing with my emotions that I realized what it meant to finally be happy. Being happy isn’t about avoiding negative emotions. It’s about learning from the negatives in life and using what you learn to help turn you into a better person.
While I am a lot happier in life than I once was, there are days where I feel trapped by my emotions just like everybody else. Truth be told, today is one of them. For me, today just flat out freaking sucks! Not because my life is bad, but because my emotions have gotten the better of me.
As difficult as it is, I’m learning to accept down days as part of life. Everybody needs to experience difficulties to remind us of all the positives. Without experiencing a wide variety of emotions, how we will ever know what feels right and what feels wrong, or what feels good and what feels bad?
While it’s inevitable to avoid these days, I want to share 4 tips with you that helped me to get over a bad day. More recently, these are 4 tips that have helped me to make it through today.
4 Ways to Get Over a Bad Day
1. Write down your thoughts.
Clear your mind and get your thoughts out of your head.
As I have gone about my day, I have done far too much overthinking, enough to the point where I felt like I was going to lose it. I was suppressing my thoughts and trapping them within the walls of my mind – the one place where they will only do more harm than good.
Grab a pen and some paper, your laptop, or even the notes section on your phone. Whatever you need to do, if you don’t feel comfortable talking to others about what you are going through, write down your thoughts and let them go.
2. Talk to those closest to you.
If you are somebody who doesn’t mind talking to others, don’t be scared to be open. Communication is another way to let go of what you are feeling, and in some cases, you are given helpful advice to overcome the thoughts that are eating at you.
As weak as you may feel to admit your weaknesses, just know that others want to help you make it through the bad day. The only way that they are going to be able to help you, though, is if you communicate with them and are willing to be vulnerable.
3. Don’t forget to breathe.
This is probably the most challenging thing for me to do when I am going through a bad day. I admit it, my mind stresses out so much that it races at a million miles an hour and my body tried to keep up with it. I forget to focus on all of the good that already fills my life, I forget to act out of kindness, and I forget to breathe.
The more you forget to breathe, the stronger your anxiety becomes and the worse you feel. At least, this is what happens to me. Wherever you are, take one minute, stop, close your eyes, and breathe. It might be hard to think about, but trust that everything happens for a reason and whatever you are feeling right now is only making you stronger for what lies ahead.
4. Be true to yourself.
It would be all to easy to overcome a bad day by caving and conforming to the beliefs of others. That won’t solve anything though. No matter what you do, hold your head high, love yourself for the person who you are, and be true to yourself.
As long as you are true to yourself, nobody will ever be able to steal your happiness or your life. Again, it’s not easy to think about when you are having a bad day, but if you truly want to live your best life, then you need to be true and stay true to the person who you are.
Bad days suck! There’s no question about it.
No matter what happens or how you feel, hold your head high and know that all pain is temporary. It doesn’t mean that you have been defeated. It simply means that you are changing, that you are growing, and that you are becoming a stronger you.
At least this is my personal opinion.
Yesterday’s post: One Simple Tip To Get Back To Being Happy