Stop Using Your Fears as an Excuse For Not Living Your Life

using your fears as an excuse
using your fears as an excuse

If you were to ask me what I fear the most in life, I’ll be straight up honest with you – I fear the loss of money. When I make a big purchase, there is always this thought in the back of my mind of getting let go from my job, having no money to support myself, maybe even being homeless on the streets. 

First of all, I psych myself out far too much. I fail to acknowledge the fact that one purchase isn’t going to cause me to go broke. I fail to acknowledge the fact that with how hard I work, I definitely know that I am not going to be laid off any time soon. I fail to acknowledge the fact that nobody in my family would ever let me go homeless. And I fail to acknowledge the fact that there are millions of different ways to support myself and make money.

Secondly, who knows, maybe having no money, enduring a job loss, being homeless for a little bit and having to hustle my way through life would do me some good. Maybe it would prevent me from using my fears as an excuse for why I am not living the life that I desire. 

Using Your Fears as an Excuse

For years, I have prevented myself from taking any risks in life. Not just because of my fear of money, but because of all of my fears. 

The sad truth is that we all do this. There are very few people on this earth that have found the courage to push past their fears and actually start living the life that they have always dreamed of themselves living. 

Let me ask you a few questions. Do you have a corporate job? Do you ever stare at the screen in front of you and wonder what the purpose of your life is or how you can “spice it up” a little bit? Do you stare at the clock waiting ever so patiently for the time to come where you can punch out and feel that sense of freedom that will only last a few hours before you are right back at it again tomorrow? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, what are you doing about it? Nothing? Well, that’s because you are living a life controlled by your fears. You care about a steady income more than a meaningful life, retirement more than the present moment, and you would rather spend your life working for “The Man” than you would yourself. If these things weren’t true, you would be doing something to change your life. 

using your fears as an excuse
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Everybody Endures Struggle

What we all need to remember, is that everybody endures struggles. You, I, the person to your left, your parents, your best friend, anybody you can think of, we all struggle

All of those people that you and I admire for escaping the typical 9-5 and who are making the most of their life… yeah, they struggle too. 

The only difference between them and you/I is the fact that they actually did it. They found a way to fight past their fears, and instead of coming up with excuses for why they weren’t living their life, they came up with hundreds, thousands, millions of reasons for why they should start living their lives. It just so happens that the good outweighed the bad enough to the point where they decided that it wasn’t worth it to wait to live their life any longer. They wanted to live, and they wanted to do so immediately. 

Pain and struggle are temporary. Regret, on the other hand, is permanent. Hold onto that thought and let it motivate you. 

Today Is A New Day

Today is a new day – a day in which you are stronger, a day in which you are wiser, and a day in which you are closer to the end of your life. 

It doesn’t matter what you did yesterday, what you did a week ago, a year ago, or any time in the past. All that matters is what you do today and how you set yourself up for tomorrow. 

Start small and overcome one fear at a time. Nobody is expecting you to be perfect, and you shouldn’t expect to be either. Approach each fear with the confidence that you are stronger than the fear itself, and work towards overcoming it with every ounce of strength that you have. It’s going to be difficult and challenging, but you are stronger. Not only that, but you deserve to live your one and only life to the absolute fullest. 

Final Thoughts

Just as much as you may have needed this, so too did I. The last two months, I have been doing my best to get out in the world and live the life that I have always dreamed of. After two months of travel, my biggest fear is becoming a reality. My bank account is slowly starting to go down, down, down. 

Last weekend, a buddy of mine approached me and asked if I wanted to take a trip to travel to a new stadium and go see an NFL game. It sounded like a good idea until he said that he wanted to sit twelve rows up and that the tickets were $350 each. 

My mind immediately came up with some reasons for why I shouldn’t go, for why I should save that money and do something else, and for why I should bail on a friend like I had grown accustomed to in the past. 

You know what though? As I experienced some thoughts that were giving me reasons not to go, I was experiencing more thoughts giving me reasons to go. Money will always be around and I will always have an opportunity to make more of it, but the experiences that life presents us come and go just as quickly as we are willing to blink. 

I may not be perfect, I may stay struggle with fear, but this is my life and I am going to make the most of it no matter what it costs. So here’s to $350 leaving my pocket, but also to memories that will last a lifetime!

Michael Bonnell

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