Daily Blog #288
There seems to be a trend going on with the books that I am reading. First it was the You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, then it was You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth, and now it is Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life. Well, since I finished this one, it is now onto The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. I think the trend is showing that I have really been into “self-help” books lately… or maybe it’s something else.
All jokes aside, Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Own Head and into Your Life by Gary John Bishop is another must-read. I’d be lying if I were to say that I bought this book for any other reason aside from the name of it, but I am sure glad that I did buy it. Aside from the no BS, non-passive approach that this book brings, here is what you can expect from reading it.
The book is broken down into seven assertions (eight chapters with the concluding chapter):
1. I am willing.
2. I am wired to win.
3. I got this.
4. I embrace the uncertainty.
5. I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.
6. I am relentless.
7. I expect nothing and accept everything.
8. Where next?
One might get the assumption that these chapters are filled with nothing but over the top positive self-talk (which I find nothing wrong with), but I promise you that it isn’t. You will be called out for the excuses that you make, you will be challenged to think outside of the box, but most importantly, you will learn to realize that you can do anything, and I mean anything that you set your mind to.
1. Get Out of your Head and Into Your Life
Gary John Bishop really does a great job in getting the reader to stop outside of their own head, and puts on emphasis on starting to live life for this very moment. In being somebody who over thinks nearly every situation, I know that I for one can relate exactly to the point that he is trying to make. Thinking about all of the things that might go wrong is not going to get us from Point A to Point B. Unless we are willing to take some risks and take a chance on our beliefs, we are never going to know what might have been.
Everybody, and I mean everybody spends far too much time inside their own head. We try to plan every aspect of your life, allow our thoughts and fears to control our actions, and care too much about what others will think about us. In return we go from wanting to live a better life, to living a life full of sadness and misery.
If we want to live the best life that we can possibly live, we need to follow Bishop’s advice in getting out of our own heads, and into our lives. The life that we have in front of us is the only one that we are going to get. Why not make the most of it and start living it.
2. The Past Is The Past
Our past is not going to define our future. Everybody has things from their past that they are not necessarily proud of. But it isn’t what you did in the past that defines who you are as a person. It’s what you do with your life moving forward that defines who you are. And that starts this very moment. Starting right now, everything from here on out is what matters.
Are you going to fail? Absolutely. But if you aren’t failing, then you aren’t trying. No matter who you look up to in life, that person has experienced far more failure than they have success. So how did they find success and happiness? Because they never gave up on themselves, and never stopped believing in their dreams.
Be willing to take action. We can sit here and talk about all of the changes that we want to see happen in life, or we can go out and work for these changes. Newsflash, only one of these options will actually bring the changes that we want to see happen.
3. You Are In Control
Everything that has happened to us so far in life has been because we have allowed it to. All of the disappointment, all of the fear, all of the exciting moments, everything. It has all happened because we have allowed it to.
We place ourselves in certain environment that bring out the best in us, but we also place ourselves in certain environments that have brought out the bad. We surround ourselves with those who are going to bring out the best in us, and we also surround ourselves with those who bring us down.
Only you are in control. If a certain environment or a certain relationship is not getting you to where you want to be, then you need to be willing to change that environment or relationship. Nobody else is going to do it for you, you need to be willing to do it for yourself. And in the scenario that you aren’t willing to make these changes, then don’t expect anything to ever change.
If there is one thing that I have realized, it’s that the best books seem to be the ones with the more intriguing titles. Maybe it’s just my childhood immaturity coming out, or maybe it’s the fact that all of the writers hold nothing back, including when it comes time to giving their writing a title. While some people may find it inappropriate to swear, I believe that it shows a level of realness. A level of self-belief in really not caring about what others think.
That’s exactly what you are going to get through Bishop’s book – realness. He doesn’t sugarcoat anything, he doesn’t write to please others, and he doesn’t hold back any advice from the readers. That is what makes this such a powerful and meaningful book.
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