Daily Blog #356
It’s 6:30 in the morning and I am sitting here at my favorite coffee shop reading Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis. P.s. I think it’s a good book, but for the sake of my masculinity, I wish it didn’t say “Girl” on the cover in big bolded letters.
I don’t know why I all of a sudden had this thought, but I keep asking myself how it is that my life has changed as drastically as it has over the last year. How have I found this much happiness and live for life? Why has it taken me so long to find it? And what did I do to deserve to have found it in the first place?
The truth – it’s because I decided to be open and free. The life of seclusion that I was living before wasn’t providing me with any benefits, so to change my life, I knew that I needed to change my mentality.
What it means to be open and free
First of all, you can’t be free if you’re not willing to be open and vulnerable. Second, you won’t be willing to be open and vulnerable if you don’t have a desire to be free. They basically go hand-in-hand.
Being open means that you hold nothing back. You are open to new ideas, new adventures, and a life full of yes-es. But it also means that you are open with not only your triumphs, but with your struggles as well. You don’t fear failure. Instead, you dissect failure piece by piece to learn from it, and you use what you learned to guide you towards a brighter future.
Being free, to me, means that you are not chained down by a past filled with challenges, but rather that you are optimistic for what you will achieve in life from this very moment onwards. You do not live your life for the approval or acceptance of others, and you shake yourself free from a past in which you will never be able to control. You live with the belief that you are strong and worthy of achieving your dreams because you are just that.
The past will never define us
It’s no question that I have experienced a lot of difficult challenges in my past, as I’m sure you have as well. But what good is it going to do either of us to hold onto any of these struggles that don’t accurately represent the life we desire to live. If we want to be free, then we need to be open.
This is one of the main reasons that I enjoy talking about myself so much, and the reason that I am comfortable with talking about my past. I won’t ever be able to change my past, so why not learn from it and move forward with my life. That, and if I truly want to be free, then I need to set myself free.
Our pasts are nothing more than the chains of our struggles that are dragging us down – dragging us further and further from the free life that we wish to live. The more that we hold onto our struggles and the more that we try to forget about them, the stronger that our struggles become. The stronger that they become, the more they dictate our lives and prohibit us from being free.
Want to be free?
Then you need to be willing to be open. You will never be able to move past your struggles if you are not able to first admit them. Admit your struggles, admit your weaknesses, and admit your wrongdoings. It is only when you do this that you will be able to truly be free.
What helps me
1. Remember that everybody has flaws and weaknesses. If I want to learn, then I need to be willing to push myself outside of my comfort zone and take risks on myself. Yes, I am going to fail, but name one person who hasn’t. There is not one person who is perfect or one person who is close to perfect for that matter.
2. Realize that my dreams are on the other side of my struggles. If I want to overcome my struggles, then I need to be willing to allow them into my life and confront them instead of trying to hide them.
3. Know that you will never be judged by anybody who is better than you. We are all a work in progress, and we are all equal. If somebody is willing to point out your flaws instead of trying to correct their own, trust me, they are not better than you.
To be free and open
Each and every day is going to be different than the last. Learn to accept what has already come and gone, and use it to help paint how you want your future to look. You deserve a life of freedom and happiness, but you need to break yourself free from the chains of your past. So let go of your struggles, set yourself free, and be free.
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