I should know by now that it’s never a good idea to judge a book by its cover.
In this case, I mean that literally.
When I first picked up The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer, I didn’t know what to expect. Part of me was hesitant to start reading it because as much as I believe in the importance of positive self-talk and overall mental well being, I guess I have doubted that surrendering to the world around me would ever lead to any significance.
Let’s just say that there was a lot of annoying “noise” in my mind, and that’s exactly what Michael A. Singer put an end to.
About The Surrender Experiment
After constant chatter consuming his every thought while trying to earn his Ph.D., Singer finally picked up a book about meditation that was recommended to him by a friend, and he decided to surrender to life’s plan for him. Through every step of his life, he would simply “go with the flow,” and he shares stories of a deep spiritual awakening that helped him to overcome the fears, doubts, and chatter that once consumed his every thought.
From living alone in the woods, to building a spiritual community in the woods of Florida that would attract some of the worlds’ greatest spiritual leaders, to creating his own construction business, to going to RadioShack one day and buying a computer where he would become a self-taught computer programmer and start one of the most well known medical management software’s, to finding himself being the main suspect of a massive FBI raid and a trial that would take seven years to conclude, Singer shares how he was able to find stillness through all of it.
The 5 Most Important Lessons to Take Away
1. You don’t control life. Life controls you.
As humans, we love control. We believe that in order to be happy or successful in life, then we need to have full control over every area of our life. Things like people who come into our lives, our finances, our daily routines, etc.
The truth is, though, sometimes the best plan is having no plan. Life will stop for nobody, so why not surrender to the plan that life has in store for us and simply go along for the ride. It will only make it all that much more enjoyable.
2. Surrender to what’s ahead, not to what’s behind you.
Your past does not define your present and your future. All of the times that you doubt your abilities, it’s only because you are reflecting on past instances in which you have failed in some way, shape, or form.
To move past these limiting beliefs, start waking up every day and using it as a fresh start. You are not going to be able to change what you did yesterday, so whether yesterday was good or bad, learn to build off of it, start new, and make today better.
3. Experience means nothing if you don’t move forward.
You can have all the experience in the world, but if you are not willing to move forward towards your goals and dreams, you will never know what you are capable of achieving.
Take Singer for example. When he bought his first computer, he taught himself how to program. Years later, all of his trials and errors would pay off as he created a multi-million dollar business. Was he the most experienced programmer in the world? No. But he kept moving forward each and every single day, and look what that turned into.
4. No matter what, always be grateful.
Life is full of experiences and amazing people that come into your life at just the right time. The key is to be grateful. Be grateful for those relationships, be grateful for all of the experiences in life, and be grateful for the life that you are living. The more grateful you are, the more you will manifest.
Keep a gratitude journal, express your gratitude verbally to others, and make people feel appreciated. The more you do this, the better relationship you will have with others, with yourself, and with life itself.
5. Everything always happens for a reason.
It goes back to the face that you don’t control life, but rather that life controls you. Everything in life happens for a reason, and while we may not know what that reasoning might be in the heat of the moment, it’s important to remember that everything always works itself out.
Surrendering doesn’t represent weakness. It actually represents a sign of strength. It shows that you are willing to let go of what you have no control over, that you are willing to let go of your ego, and that you recognize that life is more than just about you.
My Honest Opinion
Overall, this book has moved into my top three favorites of all time.
I am not really a person who is too big into meditation and surrendering, but after reading this book, it has inspired me to start letting go of control within my life and to surrender.
It’s amazing what happens when you learn to let go of the things that you can’t control in life, when you learn to go with the flow, and when learn to accept everything in life for the experience it is. Surrendering is something that we all need to do, and I recommend you read this book to find out why.