Learning to Let Go of Control & Surrendering To Life

surrendering to life
surrendering to life

I woke up this morning and immediately felt the stress. 

I got up, got dressed, jumped in my car, started to make the drive to work, turned on a podcast, and boom… the world’s largest wave of stress crashed into me and quickly began consuming my every thought. 

Okay, so I am going to go to the coffee shop to read, write in my journal, then I have to be to work thirty minutes early because I have to leave work thirty minutes early for an informational job interview. Oh wait… I still have to get prepared for the job interview, get my resume printed out, and jot down questions that I am going to ask. Did I remember to bring appropriate clothing for the job interview? What am I going to tell my boss when I get up to leave and she asks where I’m going? What type of questions do I ask in the interview? How am I going to get everything done today? How about my workout clothes for after? Am I even going to have the energy to make it through a workout?

Yeah, let’s talk about getting stressed out to the brink of insanity all before six o’clock in the morning. If there was one thing that I did well this morning, it was getting myself overly stressed instead of surrendering to life’s plan for me.

Surrender to Life

After reading The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer, I have honestly made it a goal of mine to start surrendering more to the flow of life instead of always trying to be in control. 

It’s not like I’m opposed to setting goals, having a direction in which I want my day to go, or anything else of that nature. In fact, I personally believe that everybody needs to be setting both short and long-term goals as well as having a direction in which they want their lives to go. 

At the same time, though, I have also come to realize that there is only so much that I can do, and whether I like it or not, life doesn’t revolve around me. 

As much as I want to be in the driver’s seat and to have full control over my life, life always has a different plan, and it is life’s plan that will always win. All I can do is sit back and go with the flow of life. 

The more that I sit here and try to force my way through life, the more frustrated I am going to become because I will never be able to achieve the impossible in having full control in life regardless of how badly I want to.

Whatever happens, happens. Maybe everything goes like how I want it to, or maybe it goes in the exact opposite direction. Either way, I am forcing myself to remember that everything happens for a reason – even if that reason is not yet clear and concise. 

Always Stay Optimistic

It would be all to easy to sit here and reflect on all of the times that I have been told “No” in the past, or the number of obstacles that I have allowed to prevent me from moving forward, or the number of times that I have failed in the past. But life isn’t about the past. The past only has power over us if we allow it to. 

Life is about using each day for what it is – a fresh start. It’s about letting go of what has already come and gone, surrendering to what currently is, and continuing to follow the flow of life in hopes of what will be. 

Maybe everything today goes well and I move onto the next stage in the process, or maybe it goes completely south and I get told yet again that I am not the right candidate for the position. 

Maybe I get all of my tasks completed for the day and feel proud of my hard work as I lay my head to sleep tonight, or maybe I get so caught up in the day to the point where I get nothing accomplished.

Regardless, I know that life’s plan for me is far greater than the plan that I have for myself. As long as I follow this plan, I will come out on the other side a much stronger person than I was who only has more experience under their belt for whatever experiences may lie ahead.

Final Thoughts

After starting the day with my heart pounding and my head spinning due to how much I had to accomplish throughout the day, I finally decided to surrender. 

Through surrendering, I was able to find a sense of peace and stillness. It doesn’t mean that I am not going to try to achieve the things that I want to achieve or give up when an obstacle presents itself. It means that I am going to accept whatever happens and know that it’s all just apart of life’s plan for me.

“I release control and I surrender to the flow of life.”

Michael A. Singer

In looking back to where my mind was an hour ago, I realized that it makes absolutely zero sense to get worked up or stressed about the things that I can’t control. I am just a small piece in life’s enormous puzzle. Whatever happens, happens, and it always happens for a reason. Instead of trying to force my way through this game of life, I just need to surrender to life itself and go along with the flow.

Michael Bonnell

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