Why we need to stop taking life so seriously

That’s it, I am just going to speak from the heart and write what is on my mind. Recently, I have been trying to force topics out of my head and have been putting massive amounts of stress on myself. That is not how I want to spend my life and that is not what I want this blog to be about. I want this blog to be providing motivation, inspiration, and positivity. I want to love the process and enjoy writing a post everyday. This means that I need to have fun, write what I want, and spread what I truly value. I realized that to enjoy life and live in the moment, you need to stop taking life so seriously. Well… at least sometimes.

We all have our own passions and desires in life. But have you ever noticed that when you start to stress over your desires, you simply lose interest or joy? There is a difference between good stress and bad stress. Bad stress is the type that comes with all of the negative emotions and anxiety. This is the type of stress that I am mainly talking about. It is natural for humans to feel the effects of stress, but I personally believe that we feel too much stress. When we feel that we “have” to do something or that we are “obligated” to do something, it takes the fun out of it. I think it is fair to say that we hate being told what to do with our lives.

So what can you do to stop taking life so seriously? Well for starters, follow your passion and do what you want to with your life. If you don’t enjoy something, don’t do it. Life is too short to be stuck in an environment that you do not like. Whether it is a job or a college that you are not enjoying, leave and move on with your life. When you are not passionate about something, you are going to have no desire to excel. If they desire to excel is not there, you are not going to be as successful as you might be in a different setting. That is just how life works. When you find something that you actually give a damn about, not only is you attitude going to improve, but so too will the effort you put forward.

Secondly, learn to laugh at yourself and have a sense of humor. I guarantee that the people sitting next to you make just as many mistakes as you do. We all make mistakes, and we make them quite often. How many mistakes you make does not define how good or bad of a person you are, it actually means that you are probably a boring person (I am so I can say this). Rather, what defines you is how much you learn from the mistakes that you do make. Learn to laugh at those mistakes and lighten up. The more that you worry about the mistakes that you do make, the more stressful your life is going to be.

This example is basically the story of my life. I mess up and I mess up a lot. I laugh at myself because it makes it seem like I was doing it on purpose. While I take some things seriously (and perhaps too seriously), I also strive to make others laugh. When you have a sense of humor, you are not only boosting your mood, but you are boosting the mood of the entire room around you. If you truly want to motivate, inspire, and bring happiness to others, you have to learn to laugh. Laughing is contagious and we all know that the best way to happy is to laugh

Third, surround yourself with likeminded people and learn to ignore hate. There are so many people in this world that are going to try and bring you down. Do you want to know why they do this? Because they are scared. They are scared that if they don’t bring you down, then you will be more successful than they are. People see life as a game of who can be the most successful. If you truly want to be successful in life, here is how. Live the life that you are proud of and bring as many people with you as you possibly can. Screw the money, screw the fame, live a life that will make YOU happy.

The more that you surround yourself with likeminded people, the easier this will be to accomplish. When we work together, we can do literally anything that we want. We can build cities, build companies, build a freaking universe. Your success and happiness truthfully  do depend on who you surround yourself with.

I am not saying that these three tips are going to make you the most successful person ever. This is probably because I define success differently than you do. I define success as living a life that I am proud of and a life that I love living. By doing what I want to in life, learning to laugh, and ignoring hate, I am living my best life. By recognizing and understanding my values in life, I have learned that to be happy and successful, I needed to stop taking life so seriously. Now understand what success means to you and see what changes you can make too.

Michael Bonnell

6/23/2018

 

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