7 Ways to Stop Feeling Average About Your Life

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There are days where I wake up and question whether or not I am actually good enough to achieve the goals that I have set for myself. Aside from setting incredibly lofty goals for myself, the pessimism that lives in the back of my mind tells me that I have never really achieved anything too substantial, so why would anything change now. 

Nobody wants to be average. Sure, we may want to fit in, but deep down, we all want to achieve the goals that we have envisioned. We all want to find that deeper meaning of satisfaction in knowing that we have accomplished something truly remarkable. 

But as much as all of us want to stop feeling average, it’s unfortunately what most of the people around us settle for. 

They listen to the pessimism that clouds their judgment, to the negativity of others, and to the fears that they feel. As a result, nothing in life ever changes. They go through the daily motions hoping that tomorrow will bring a miracle, but are often disappointed by the reality that they are going to live an ordinary life until they do something extraordinary. 

As I said, I have felt this way for much of my life. This isn’t me trying to guess what people are feeling when they feel as if they are living an average life. This is me knowing what average feels like because these are the very same emotions that I felt. 

Have I achieved the goals that I have set for myself? Not all of them, but some of them. But I also know that I am not average. I know that I was put on this earth to do amazing things, and it is entirely up to me to achieve them. 

I want to share with you 7 things that have helped to escape the pessimistic thoughts of my mind – things that have helped me to stop feeling average. 

7 Ways to Stop Feeling Average About Your Life

1. Retrain your mind to focus on your strengths.

Mindset is everything. If you want to stop feeling average about yourself, then you need to retrain your mind to focus on your strengths and the traits that make you stand out. 

Believe it or not, you have certain skills that others would love to have. The objective is to find these skills, to continue to develop them, and to master your own craft. 

The point is, what you believe will become your reality. If you believe you’re average, I hate to break it to you, but then your life is going to remain average. But when you start to believe that you are capable of greatness, that’s when doors will start to open and opportunities will start to present themselves. 

Affirmations are what helped me the most to retrain my mind. Instead of saying “I can’t,” I started telling myself that “I will,” “I can,” and “I am.” The more I started using these affirmations, the more I started believing them. While I have yet to achieve all of the goals that I have set for myself, I know that I can achieve them, I will achieve them, and that I am strong enough to achieve them. It’s only a matter of time before I do achieve them. 

2. Reflect on your day and what went well.

Self-reflection is a great way to stop feeling average as it helps you to see what some of your strengths are. 

As we go through the day, we do endless amounts of tasks without taking the time to recognize what it is that we are even doing. And when we start to feel down about ourselves, it’s much easier to focus on the negatives instead of our strengths. This means that without purposefully reflecting on our days, very rarely do we recognize our strengths or the things that we are good at. 

Life is crazy busy. It is for all of us. But do yourself a favor and write down some of your greatest accomplishments from the day or the day prior. By writing them down, you will have an easier time seeing how powerful and above-average you truly are. 

3. Challenge yourself to learn something new each and every day. 

If you want to stop feeling average about your life, then start doing more things that are going to make you extraordinary. If you feel as if you are just another average person lost in the world, it’s because you aren’t doing enough of the things that are meaningful to you and that are going to make you stand out. 

What has helped me to challenge myself has been to let go of other’s opinions of me and simply listen to my heart instead. I don’t want to live an average life, so I need to be willing to do everything that I can to make myself stand out more (in a good way, of course). 

I traded watching endless amounts of television for reading an average of a book a week. I traded keeping my thoughts to myself to letting them go and releasing them into the world. I traded being the person others wanted me to be to striving to be the person that I want to be. 

All of these things are challenges that I have had to overcome, but they are challenges that have given my life a sense of meaning, value, and worth.

4. Surround yourself with others who have achieved the life you desire. 

Just as you need to quit being average if you want to live an extraordinary life, you also need to reflect on who you are spending the majority of your time around. 

People matter. Who you surround yourself with matters. You become the average of the five people that you spend the most time around, so start spending your time around those who have achieved greatness, to those who are ambitious, and to those who are living an above average life. 

5. Remember everybody starts somewhere.

This is another thing that I often find myself struggling with. When I don’t feel as if I am capable of anything more than being average, it’s probably because I am comparing my life to the lives of others. I look around and see the success that others have achieved, their happiness, and see all that their lives have to offer, and admittingly, I become jealous. 

This is the wrong thing to do. NEVER compare your beginning to somebody else’s accomplished ending. That’s simply a recipe for disaster. 

What’s important to remember though, is that everybody starts somewhere. There are going to be people who have achieved more than you have and who may be living the life that you dream of. And while you may feel average with the current state of your life, just remember that those who you admire the most were once in your shoes. 

The best thing that you can do for yourself is to start and to never give up until you achieve the above-average life that you were born to live. Nothing is going to be handed to you on a silver platter, so make the most of your life and get started. 

6. Ask yourself “Why not me?”

We all experience this, but when we are feeling ordinary and boring, we often look at those around us who are living an exciting and entertaining life. Again, we compare ourselves while forgetting to realize that comparison is the thief of joy. 

You might be like me and find yourself wondering if you will achieve the life that you have envisioned for yourself. During these times, I try to remind myself of my strengths by asking the question of “Why not me?” 

You have to give yourself credit where credit is due. You and I both know that you are capable of greatness and achieving the extraordinary life that you desire. That doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy to achieve, but with hard work, dedication, and time, there isn’t anything that you can’t and won’t achieve. 

You are no less capable of greatness than any of the individuals that you admire. Take control of your life and start pursuing the life you dream of living. 

7. Make sure to put in the work. 

Of course it’s easy to want something and never actually work for it, but as we all know, nothing in life worth having will ever come easy, and nothing that comes easy in life is worth having. 

To stop feeling average about your life, then you need to be willing to put in the work to achieve the goals that you have set for yourself. This means making time to prioritize what’s important, to continue to progress when you would rather rest, and to never allow yourself to quit no matter how many difficulties and challenges you may be facing. 

Ordinary people never achieve extraordinary results. It’s the extraordinary people who are the ones that achieve extraordinary results. So, if you want to be extraordinary, then you need to constantly go above and beyond what is comfortable and the limits that you have set for yourself. And yes, you do have the power and capability of doing so. 


If there is something you should take away from this, it’s to stop wondering why your average, and to start creating more of the work that you love. You are and never will be average. You are you and that is your greatest strength. Find out what matters most to you and what you are good at, and change the world in ways that only you can.

Michael Bonnell

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