I am not going to say that I am disappointed at all, just simply confused. It seems that no matter how hard I try, things never go as planned.
But does anything really ever go as planned?
When we first wake up in the morning and picture how the day is going to go, does it actually go exactly how we imagined it would? When we try to picture what is going to happen tomorrow, how many times are we actually right? Probably never.
So why is it that we even try to plan. Maybe the real plan should be, well, not having a plan. Or at least being a little more flexible with the plans that we set.
I will be the first to admit it. Not only am I a create of habit, but I also tend to be a perfectionist. When I get comfortable with a certain routine, I do not like to switch it up. There is just something about knowing what the day is going to look like that helps to comfort me. And if my routine doesn’t go as planned, I stress.
That is why not much changes in my daily routine. I wake up, get ready for work, work until 4pm, drive to the gym, get dinner after the gym, and then drive home and just relax for the rest of the night.
Recently though, I have had to come to the realization that even with having this plan, nothing in my life ever goes the way that I envisioned. But maybe that’s how life is supposed to be.
When I was a kid, all I wanted to be when I grew up was a professional hockey player. It was all I ever dreamed of. But after not making the varsity team my junior year of high school, I realized that the odds of me being a professional hockey player were slim to none.
When I started my first semester of college, I had a plan of graduating with a political science degree. Well, after having my sister write my papers for two full semesters just to make sure that I didn’t flunk out of college, I realized that a political science degree was not going to get me too far.
When I sat down for Thanksgiving dinner this year, I had a plan that I was not going to stuff my face until I couldn’t move. I told myself that I wasn’t going to restrict myself any longer, so it was okay to not feel full, and just eat again when I am hungry. While I improved from years past, it still didn’t go how I planned
In each one of these instances, when I realized that my plan did not go the way that I wanted it to go, guess how I felt. I was pretty pissed off and disappointed. In fact, I dare say that we all feel disappointed when things don’t go the way we want them to go.
So then why is it that we even try to plan outcomes in our minds if it never goes as planned? Why not save ourselves the disappointment, and just go with the flow?
Look, whether we like it or not, things are always going to change. Nothing is ever going to go exactly as envisioned. It doesn’t mean that we are failing, or that we will never be good enough. It just means that we are not perfect. And just know that we never will be.
So the next time that something doesn’t go as planned, don’t get disappointed. Instead, go with the flow, and make it part of the plan. Whatever you do, always stay positive. Remember that everything happens for a reason, even if you aren’t sure what that reason is quite yet.
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