Being mentally strong isn’t always an easy task, especially given the circumstances the world is currently facing.
I will admit that there are days where I can’t escape the negative thoughts that sometimes pass through my mind. There are also days where it hard for me to find any ounce of motivation to even roll out of bed.
Times are just different right now. I think we have all gotten past the “challenging” part and have accepted this as the new normal, but they’re still vastly different given the state the world was in just five short months ago.
Staying Mentally Strong
As somebody who has lived in a negative state of mind for years, mental strength is everything. Becoming mentally strong is what’s given me life. It’s helped me to find a sense of happiness and joy in my life, to accept myself despite the many mistakes I have made and continue to make, and overall, it’s simply led to me being able to live a far better life than the one I was previously living.
Am I perfect? Am I able to remain mentally strong every minute of every single day? Absolutely not. But I want to share with you some of the things that have helped me along the way – tips that have helped me to take back control of my life and remain mentally strong.
Mentally strong people embrace challenges.
At first, this was the hardest thing for me to comprehend and overcome. I never used to challenge myself because I always associated challenges with failure.
I was so insecure with myself that I never wanted people to see me as a failure. I needed to be accepted by others in order to accept myself, and if I failed and was seen as a failure in the eyes of others, I would have looked at myself the same way.
But mentally strong people aren’t insecure. They aren’t afraid to fail and don’t care what others think about them.
If you want to achieve something that you haven’t already achieved in life, you need to be willing to do something you have yet to do. For me, that meant taking more chances on myself, embracing my failures, and learning from the mistakes I made so I could progress towards becoming the individual I wanted to become.
Mentally strong people don’t criticize themselves.
I would talk down on myself all the time. Every time I made a mistake, I would call myself useless, worthless, a waste of space.
I can also remember physically hitting myself sometimes for making mistakes. I felt stupid for the mistakes I made, and for some reason, I thought abusing myself was going to somehow help.
But it didn’t.
It actually only hurt my self-confidence even more.
When it comes to mental strength, mentally strong individuals don’t do any of this. Sure, they still experience negative thoughts from time to time, but instead of listening to those thoughts, they replace them with more positive and uplifting thoughts.
Simply put, mentally strong individuals talk to themselves the way they want others to talk to them. They treat themselves the way they want to be treated by others. That’s what separates them from the majority of the world.
Mentally strong individuals focus on the present.
Part of the reason I was in such a negative state of mind for as many years as I was, was due to the fact that I had allowed myself to spend so much of my time and energy focusing on the past and the future that I completely forgot to focus on the present.
I continued to allow my past mistakes to shape what I wanted to do in the future. Then I would look ahead and wonder how I was ever going to achieve anything in life given the past mistakes I had made.
It was a never-ending downward spiral.
It wasn’t until I started to be mindful of my thoughts and focus on what I could do to improve my life in the present moment that I actually began to find a sense of happiness.
Mentally strong individuals tend to focus solely on the present. This isn’t to say they completely forget about the past and don’t look ahead into the future, but they don’t let either control the life they have today.
The past has come and gone. There is no going back and redoing any of it. And the future is all but certain. As much as we want to be alive tomorrow, tomorrow is never promised.
So if you want to know what’s the best thing you can do for yourself today, it would be to focus on today and only today.
Mentally strong individuals don’t give up.
We have all given up on something over the course of our lives and have wondered what could have been if we hadn’t given up.
The thing is, we are all going to experience challenges and failures over the course of our lives. But that doesn’t mean we should just call it quits. Giving up is never going to get us from where we are today to where we want to be in the future.
As long as you put your mind to something and are willing to believe in yourself no matter how many times you fail, then there won’t be anything you can’t achieve over the course of your life. You are you, and that is always going to be your greatest strength. So don’t give up on who you are.
What’s The Next Best Thing?
As always, ask yourself what’s the next best thing that you can do for yourself to start living the life of your dreams. What’s the next best thing you can do to develop mental strength and achieve your goals?
Only you know the answer to this and only you can do it. Be willing to take action if you want to change your life. Taking action is the only way anything’s ever going to change.