Over the last few weeks, my life has been a tad bit stressful. My parents have moved 1,300 miles away, I am going to be traveling out of the country for the first time in my life, and just to top it off, I have been rejected from more jobs over the last few months than I have in my entire life.
Now, I don’t want to make it seem like I have been rejected a lot, but previously, I had a pretty good track record with getting the job I applied for.
Where It Went Wrong
After a few conversations and reading a few articles online about what jobs look for in a candidate, I see where I may have gone wrong. In all of my interviews, I brought up my blog and my previous battle with mental illnesses.
It may not seem like a big deal to some, but if you think about it, I can see where if would scare some away. If you were an employer and you didn’t know the candidate on a personal level, you too would probably be a little worried that: a. this person was still struggling with their mental health and that they were just telling you that everything was okay to get a job, or b. they could “relapse” at any time and go back into a downward spiral.
If this is the reason that I did get rejected, then I get it, I would probably be worried too.
Bring On More Rejection
Do you want to know what I say to that? I say bring on more rejection. No matter what I do, I will always remain true to myself. I have learned my lesson about what can happen when we strive for the acceptance of others, and it is a lesson that I am not willing to experience again.
Here’s the deal, my mental health, my blog, my desire to inspire, all of it is an incredibly large part of my life and the person who I am today. I don’t want to hide that, and if it scares others off from even giving me an opportunity to show my strengths, then so be it.
Sure, I may be missing out on not getting the job that I applied for or the job that I want. But you know who else is missing out? The employer. I have made so many strides in my life to the point where I am stronger now than I have ever been on my life. Not only that, but I have also overcome an incredible amount of adversity in my past to the point that very little could ever break me. I believe in myself, I know what I am worth, and I know that I am not the only one “losing” in this situation.
Plus, if somebody doesn’t want to give me a chance simply because of my past, what does that say about them? What does that say about how they are going to treat me during the challenging times? It probably shows that they aren’t willing to have my back during the challenging times and that they want me to be perfect. If that’s the case, then they’re right, I am not the right person for the job. I am not perfect and I will be the first to admit that.
Stay True To Yourself
If I didn’t stay true to myself and share the things that I am passionate about as well as my imperfections, what would that say about me? What would that say about how I perceive myself today? What would that say about all of the “progress” that I have made up to this point in my life? It would just show that I was willing to do whatever was required of me to be accepted by others. Let’s face it, I don’t want to go down that road again.
Some may see rejection as a slap in the face, and some are probably telling me to just keep my mouth shut and not talk about my past, but I can’t do that. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and if I don’t get the opportunity to showcase my strengths, then it wouldn’t have been a good fit in the long run anyhow. I want to find someone who is just as passionate about me as I am them, and until I do, I am willing to encounter any amount of rejection. I will always stay true to myself because I am me, and that is my greatest strength.
If you don’t have yourself, then what do you have? You don’t need to be someone your not just for the sake of being accepted by others. Everybody is different in their own unique way, and that’s what makes us who we are. Those who you strive to be accepted by, they are only going to show you the respect that you are willing to show yourself. If you don’t stay true to yourself, then nobody is going to respect you for the real you.
No matter what happens in your life, always stay true to yourself. Never forget that you are you and that is your greatest power. Believe in all that you are capable of achieving, follow each and every single one of your goals, and never, ever allow others to determine how you live your life. This is the only one that you get, so make the most of it and live it your way.
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