If you want to start living life to the fullest, just do it

If you would have asked me six months ago what I thought about my life, I would have smiled and told you that everything was perfect. While I truly do believe that I have the best life ever, we all know that statement would have been a complete lie. Nothing in life is ever perfect. Yes, my life is and always has been full of blessings, but I was personally not living my best life. Instead, I was fighting my emotions everyday and I was living a life based on the opinions of others. After six years of living with this mindset, there is one crucial mindset that helped me to get my life back. If you want to start living life to the fullest, just do it. That’s it, just do it. Let me explain what I mean by this.

I have spent the past six years of my life missing out on memories because I was too concerned with what others thought about me. Six years of missing parties, dinners, and memories with my family and friends. All of this because I cared when people would call me fat, I cared when people would call me skinny, and I cared when people said they didn’t like me. I created this image in my head of how I thought others wanted me to be. Every single day, I lived this religiously and never thought that I would be happy until I reached that perfect image. After six years of trying to be the perfect person that I thought everyone wanted me to be, I gave up.

That’s it, I had simply given up. It wasn’t as if I gave up on purpose, I just became so exhausted to the point where I couldn’t continue with that mindset. Those images that I had in my head, they sucked the life out of me for six years. Here is the crazy part, giving up was the best thing that I ever did for myself. Nobody is going to take on your stress or chase your dreams in life, so you need to learn to just do it for yourself.

Once I gave up on trying to be the person that I thought others wanted me to be, I was finally able to be me again. I was able to find my path, I was able to start making memories again, and I was able to start living life to the fullest. I know the answer seems very vague, trust me, I do, but it’s the truth.

My mom had the same mentality as I did when she was in her twenties and thirties. We both become easily fixated on things that we want in life. When I asked how she overcame her thoughts, she said you just got to. I didn’t really believe her and just brushed off the answer because there was no way that it was right. But in all reality, it actually was right. Really, what other choice do we have? We can either get our lives back and be happy, or we can continue down a long and miserable path.

You have to realize that life is what you make out of it. It is one big game that can be amazing if you play it right, and miserable if you miss a move. When you learn to quit giving a damn about what others think about you and only start worrying about yourself, your life will be amazing and full of happiness. When you compare yourself and ponder every move you make in life, you are going to miss. Not only are you going to miss, but you will fall and life will become miserable.

Over the last six months, I have never loved myself more than I do now. I have never had this amount of self-confidence and motivation. Everyday, I wake up and see life for the blessing that it is and I see myself for the beautiful person that I am. I truly believe that my newfound love of life is because I quit caring about what others thought and I just started living for me. I started living my life how I wanted to and started living for the moments instead of just living to exist. So my best piece of advice for you is to just do it. Once you just start living your life how you want, you too will see the blessings and beauty in life.

Michael Bonnell

6/19/2018

 

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