Sometimes We Just Need To Vent

Sometimes we just need to vent our emotions, and there is nothing wrong with that.

I am sorry if this sounds like a lot of rambling, but welcome to the inside of my head. After a whirlwind of a week, things are finally starting to look up. The stress is easing, my mood is improving, and my positive mindset is finally returning.

I tried so hard to hold back my emotions and just keep to myself, but I just couldn’t do it any longer. I know that keeping your emotions bottled up won’t solve anything, but hey, I am human too.

When I am facing adversity and stress, I don’t always want to share my problems with others. I feel that by sharing my problems with others, then my problems are becoming somebody else’s problems. But sometimes, just letting go and spilling our thoughts is the best thing that we can do for ourselves. Even if it is just to a relative or a friend that we are close to, sometimes we just need to vent and let go.

I remember the times in college when I would go to see my therapist. I would walk into his office trying to act macho and tough, while telling myself that today was the day. Today was the day that I wasn’t going to break down and cry. Part of me thought that I had to prove to my therapist how strong I was, and that no matter how hard he tried, he couldn’t get to me. The only way for me to prove my strength, was by making it through a session without crying. Or so I thought.

Well, this never happened. Every single time I left his office, I would leave with a box of Kleenex in my hands. My face would be wet from tears, and my eyes would be bloodshot from crying so hard.

Hey, I am not ashamed to say it, nor am I ashamed to admit that I sought counseling. Each time that I would walk into my therapist’s office, I would walk in there feeling angry and filled with negativity. Each time that I walked out, I did so feeling a little more positive and hopeful. The truth is, I just needed to let go of my emotions. I just needed to vent, and I needed someone to listen to me.

I feel like we all get so caught up in trying to be tough as nails, that we feel that we need to keep our emotions to ourselves. In all reality, this only does more harm than good. Sometimes we just need to vent. Sometimes we just need to let out all of our bottled up emotions. And sometimes we just need to get the stress off of our chests.

Holding your emotions in life will never do you any good. It leads to anger, frustration, and a lot of regret. Look back at a time in your life when you kept your emotions to yourself. How did that play out for you? Odds are, it didn’t go so well.

Ask others for help. Listen to their thoughts and ideas. If nothing else, you will only gain a new perspective on how to overcome certain obstacles in life. Having two solutions to every problem is always better than only having one. Find new ways to work together and do what you can to create a better world for everyone to live in.

Through finding happiness and positivity in my life, I have realized that there is nothing wrong with asking for help. No matter what the obstacles are that you might be facing in life, there are always going to be people that are there for you, and there are always going to be people that want to help. All you have to do is have the courage to ask.

So the next time that you are feeling frustrated, just vent. Ask someone for help, and open up to that person. Sometimes we just need to vent in order to find the solution that we are looking for, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Michael Bonnell

9/24/2018

 

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