How to manage through the bad days.
Happiness and positivity. These are the feelings that I focus on most in my life. While I try to live a life of happiness and positivity, I also want to be transparent and show you some of the negatives as well. There are some days where no matter how hard I try, happiness and enjoyment are simply out of the picture. Some days just suck.
You want real? Well, here it is. Yesterday absolutely sucked. There, coming from someone who always tries to focus on every single one of the positives in life, yesterday left me feeling stranded and hopeless. I tried my best to focus on the positives, and I tried to relax, but my mind was just not having it.
I don’t enjoy sharing the negative aspects of my life simply because I like focusing mainly on the positives. But at the same time, I also feel that it is important to be transparent and relatable. I want to show you that none of us are perfect. We are all going to experience setbacks with any dream or feeling that we chase. It doesn’t matter who you are, there are going to be days that are just more difficult than others. And yesterday was one of those days.
I woke up feeling normal. By normal, I mean I woke up in a good mood, and ready to give the day my all. I got in to work, sat down, and focused harder than I ever have for three hours straight. After three hours I looked up at the clock, and disappointed immediately settled in. I had made absolutely zero progress on what I was supposed to get done. All of that hard work felt completely wasted, and I felt like a failure.
From there, my day went downhill, and it went downhill fast. After hours of working as hard as I could, I was still not making any progress. For doing the best that I could do, the results were just not showing. And minute by minute, I was becoming more and more pissed off. I tried to sit down, relax, and just put my attention to something else, but even that didn’t help.
Have you ever had that feeling in your head where everything is amplified? That is exactly what was happening to me. The people who were talking quietly around me sounded as if they were shouting, and my thoughts were screaming through the nonexistent megaphone in my head. There was simply no sense of calm or quiet. It’s difficult to picture, and even more difficult to explain, but that is how I felt.
As the day progressed, I was becoming more restless and anxious. My heart felt like it was going to burst out of my chest. I tried to block out everything around me, but the noise that was consuming my mind was just too loud to concentrate. Finally, I had to give up.
After walking around angry for most of the day with my fists clenched and blood boiling, I realized that I needed to rest. My attitude was not benefiting me, or those around me in any way whatsoever. Plain and simple, my emotions were showing, and I was walking around pissed off at everything. So I packed up my belongings early, and headed home.
Honestly, that is exactly what I needed. I needed to reset, refocus, and just be able to breathe again. A lot of the anger and anxiety that I was experiencing was because I was tired, and because I was simply trying to force everything. From work, to my social life, to even writing, I just felt trapped with no room to breathe. Basically, my mind was telling me to slow the fuck down, and it was time that I had to listen.
So, yeah, yesterday didn’t go as I wanted it to go. But believe it or not, I learned something. I learned that we can’t win every day. Just like our bodies sometimes need, our minds need rest as well. And mine needed it badly.
The point of this was not to dump all of my problems on you, even though this did feel damn good and somewhat liberating. But rather, the point of this was to show you that some days just suck. Even those who try to focus on happiness and positivity experience bad days too. They are inevitable. But just don’t let them define you.
Instead, use these bad days as an opportunity to rest your mind, and refocus your thoughts. Get some rest, and come out fresh tomorrow. Remember, two steps forward, one step backwards. As long as you progress over time, that is what matters.
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