Are you sabotaging your own life?
What happens when you don’t get what you want in life?
Well, if you are human, then you probably try to blame some external factor that isn’t yourself, right?
But if you take some time to reflect, you will realize that you are actually responsible for everything in your life. Yes, if you are not getting what you want out of life, that is on you and nobody else. Whether you believe it to be true or not, you actually sabotaging your own life more than you think.
Self-sabotage is something that we are all guilty of. We, individually, are the masters of destroying our own happiness, and we are the only ones who have the ability to stop ourselves from achieving whatever it is that we want.
Don’t believe me? I want to share with you some of the ways that we sabotage ourselves, and see if any of them apply to your life. Here are 7 ways you are sabotaging your own life.
#1. Negativity and Self-Doubt
This is something that we all do… on a daily basis. We allow our fears to control our actions, and when it comes to taking risks on ourselves, we often say that we “can’t” do something before we even try.
This is something that I have had to work hard on daily. When I find myself doubting all of my abilities, I try my best to focus on how much I have already achieved and all that I know I am capable of achieving.
Also, positive affirmations are huge. Affirmations such as I am strong, I am worthy, I deserve to be happy, I am capable of greatness, I am me and that is my greatest power.
#2. Playing It Safe
How many of us are currently living a life in which we are playing it safe? All of us? Yeah, that’s what I thought.
As a society, we are taught how to live, what risks we should and shouldn’t take, and what dangers we should avoid. Over time, we forget how to take chances on ourselves because we have been taught not to.
I want you to realize something. I want you to realize that you, and only you, are the creator of your own future. If you want something in life, then you need to understand that it’s already out there and that it’s yours for the taking. You just simply need to go after it…
“Comparison is the thief of all joy.”
We live in a day and age where it’s far too easy to compare ourselves to others. We unlock our phones, open an app, and we are immediately flooded with all of the excitement and pleasures in the lives of others. We are then forced to ask ourselves, “Well, why isn’t my life that exciting?”
Here’s the deal, social media is good for one thing – seeing the best of the best. Very rarely will you see the truth, the grind, the blood, sweat, and tears that others are pouring into their days, but I assure you that it is there.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to the one person who controls your life – yourself. Compare yourself with where you are now to where you want to be, envision the future that you wish to live, and focus on the goals that you have for yourself.
The more excuses you make for yourself, the most you are only sabotaging your own life, which is why you need to be stronger than your strongest excuse.
Let’s face it, we all love to make excuses because that means that we don’t have to take action or responsibility. If we don’t have to take action or responsibility, then that means that we will never fail.
But guess what… while you won’t be forced to face your fears or experience failure, you also won’t have to worry about enduring success or happiness, because success and happiness only come to those who stop making excuses and find the will to move past their fears.
#5. Rewarding Yourself
Okay, I’m really bad at this one. For as hard as I work, I don’t reward myself enough. Part of me just doesn’t feel like I have accomplished enough quite yet.
But when we fall into this habit of not rewarding ourselves enough, what is there to motivate us when we feel like giving up? What is there to look forward to for all of our hard work and efforts?
No, you don’t need to go buy yourself a fancy new car for achieving a goal… unless you’re into that. But do something nice for yourself. Recognize all of the hard work that you are putting into your life and simply reward yourself however you see fit. Why? Because when you reward yourself, you are provided with another purpose for why you should keep moving forward when you feel like giving up.
Plus, you work hard for your money… treat-yo-self.
#6. Not Staying Focused On Your Goals
What do I need to do today? What time do I need to be to work by? What… wait, is that a squirrel?
Yeah, most of us have the attention span of a squirrel. We focus on something, see a shiny object, and our attention immediately shifts leaving us wondering what we were originally thinking about.
If you don’t stay focused on your goals and what you want to achieve in your life, then what’s going to prevent you from forgetting about your goals and stop you from moving onto the next event in your busy schedule?
No, you don’t need some massive notebook to keep track of your goals. Me, I simply have them hanging on a post-it note on my bathroom mirror. Every morning when I brush my teeth I see my goals. Every night when I brush my teeth, there they are again. It helps to remind me what I should be focusing on and helps me to stay on track.
#7. Giving Up
You will NEVER achieve anything substantial in life by giving up on yourself. The moment that you give up, all of the hard work that you have poured into your life so far immediately goes down the drain. Your self-confidence will disappear, your self-belief will decrease, and the odds of completing any goal in the future will fade away just as quickly as you gave up on them.
Another thing to know, you are closer to achieving what you want in life than you realize. Your greatest accomplishments generally come right after your greatest struggles. But if you quit on yourself during your greatest struggles, then you will not achieve those accomplishments.
So, word to the wise… Stop sabotaging your own life. Don’t give up no matter how challenging life may feel.
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