Rewarding myself isn’t something that I have always been the best at. If I’m going to be honest, I would say that it’s probably one of my greatest weaknesses. It’s not that I don’t like having new things, but I fear losing money, which is what prevents me from rewarding myself. And when I do reward myself, it isn’t without much consideration and thought going into it first.
Do I really need this? Did I truly work hard enough to deserve something? Should I just wait until my next paycheck or until I get some more money to help ease my stress?
These are just a few of the thoughts that used to and still do flood my mind. And the thing is, these aren’t just my thoughts – we all think this way. We are way too hard on ourselves and seemingly cut the vast majority of all pleasure from our lives.
What do you suppose happens when hard work goes unnoticed? What would happen at work or school if you were to dedicate all of your time and energy to a project and you either got an average grade, or your boss didn’t give you the recognition that you felt you deserved? Next time around you probably are going to save your time, do something more enjoyable, and do the bare minimum. And why wouldn’t you? What’s the point of going above and beyond for somebody else if there is no added benefit for you?
See where I’m going with this?
Often times this happens in our lives, but we don’t realize it. We are the bosses of our own lives who fail to rewards ourselves for all of our hard work. Just like the example above, we are going to learn to settle for being average if we don’t learn to reward ourselves for being outstanding.
Wake up! Realize all of your hard work and reward yourself for it. When you reward yourself, you are much more inclined to continue down the path of greatness and this is the path that will lead to any and all of your success. That’s what you want, right? Happiness and success? Then start rewarding yourself for your hard work because you deserve to.
Actions speak louder than words.
Last week I completed Project 365, a project where I blogged every single day for 365 days straight. I am still continuing my daily blog, but that’s beside the point.
At the beginning of my project, I told myself that I was going to buy a new computer for all of my hard work. Being the frugal person that I am, I never actually believed that I would have to buy one when I first set this goal because I was not expecting to complete my goal in general.
Well, I completed the goal and when the time came to buy a new computer, I hesitated.
Do I really need it? Did I work hard enough for it? Should I wait until one or two more paychecks to help ease my stress?
Again these thoughts flooded my mind, but this time, they didn’t win.
Yes, the price tag of the computer was enough to nearly scare me to death, but I went to the store and bought the exact MacBook Pro that I wanted. Did I need it? Nope. But I told myself that I was going to buy it, and I did so because I wanted it and because I deserved it.
As I left the store, something happened to me. I started tearing up and I saw all of my dreams right in front of me. I was flooded with emotion and the immediate drive to keep doing exactly what I am doing. To this day, those emotions are still helping to drive me forward in pursuing my dreams.
I wanted something, I worked for it, and I achieved it. Why wouldn’t I reward myself for doing so? If I didn’t, I assure you that anything I was to do in the future would either be meaningless, or it would be completed with the mindset of just being average. That’s not what life is about. Life isn’t about being average, it’s about being you and achieving your dreams because you deserve nothing less.
I’m not saying that buying yourself something is the only way to reward yourself. When you complete something, go for a walk, allow yourself to sleep an extra hour, take a bath to relax, even something as seemingly small as telling yourself that you did a good job will do.
The point is, you need to stop being so hard on yourself. We all do. Cut yourself some slack and reward yourself for all of your efforts. As long as you are doing your absolute best, then good things will come. Reward yourself, focus on the good in life, and never forget all that you are worth.
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