Daily Blog #316
You probably know by now that no matter what you decide to do in your life, you are going to be judged. But before you go listening to the judgment of others, remember the real reasons why people judge you in the first place. And also, remember that you will never be judged by somebody who is better than you.
I am a person who absolutely hates judgment. I have spent years of my life being judged by others, and I have spent each and every one of those years listening to the opinions of others. So much so that I actually started to believe all of the negative things that others would say about me.
Now before I go acting only like a victim, I also need to admit that I too have judged my fair share of other individuals as well. In fact, we all judge others on a daily basis whether we are cognizant of it or not. As much as it pains me to say it, judgment is simply apart of our human nature. Maybe you don’t judge others as harshly as others judge you, but you still do it.
We are not perfect and we will never be perfect. When we see something that doesn’t fall in line with our beliefs, one of our first instincts is to judge. It doesn’t do any good to try and hide it. The sooner that you admit the fact that you are just as guilty as those who judge you, the sooner that you can start making the changes towards improving your life and your behavior.
The real reasons why people judge you.
When someone judges you, it’s important to know that what they are saying is not the truth. One of the reasons why people are going to judge you is because they are scared of the things that you are capable of achieving. People who judge (remember, you and I fall under this as well), judge others because they are scared to watch those individuals succeed. They are scared of the thought of somebody else achieving something that they could only dream of achieving, which would result in them being considered a failure. And it’s not that others would see them as a failure, but it’s how they would see themselves. It’s all starting to make a little bit more sense now, isn’t it?
A trip down memory lane.
Think back on the person who used to try and make your life a living nightmare. Where is that person today? What does their life look like? Odds are, their life is now a complete reflection of how they used to make you feel – low and shallow. To be honest, they probably always felt this way, and as a way to mask the insecurities that consumed their life, they tried to bring you down only to boost how they felt about themselves.
No, I am not a psychologist. Being a psychologist would entail a significant amount of schooling that I really don’t want to put myself through. But I have lived it. I am not saying that I am any better than the people that judged me, but I can now see the pain that they have experienced in life which has carried into their adult years.
Do you remember what your parents or teachers used to tell you in grade school about those who used to pick on you? They probably said the same thing – that those you pick on you only do so to make themselves feel better. While I thought it was just an attempt to make me feel better about myself, I can now look back and say that it’s the truth. And it’s not just in school, it’s in life. Those who tease, pick, and judge you, do so to make themselves feel better.
Moving forward with your life.
Moving forward, remember that you will only be judged by those who truly fear you. You will only be judged by those who know that you WILL achieve greatness, those who don’t want to see you amount to more than them, and by those who are envious of the life that you live. Those are the real reasons why people judge you.
See past all of the negativity that you have endured, and simply try to be the best person that you can be. Remember how you felt each and every one of those times that somebody judged you, and use that feeling to help prevent you from inflicting that same pain into somebody else’s life.
While we are never going to be perfect, we can always work towards improving ourselves. So do it. Focus on improving yourself each and every day, and focus on being your best for you, and for those around you. Accept the past for what it is, and create the future for what you want to see.
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