Daily Blog #355
Get out of your own way and quit preventing yourself from succeeding. Whether you know it or not, you are the only person that stands in the way from living the life you that you envision for yourself. The truth hurts, but I promise that once you accept it for what it is, the truth will also help you to move forward.
As a society, we fail to take responsibility for the things that happen to us in life. Don’t worry, you’re not alone in this, we all do it. We like to blame other people or outside factors for some of the negative things that have happened to us, or for why we are currently feeling stuck in life. What we are failing to realize, though, is that we are our own biggest burden. Everything that we blame others for is truthfully just a hurdle; a hurdle that lies in our own mind.
Preventing yourself from succeeding
If I were to ask you why you haven’t received a raise at work in the last five years, what would your response most likely be? Your boss doesn’t like you and tries to make your life miserable? You have too much work placed on you so you can’t get everything done, which in turn makes it seem like you aren’t as valuable as you truly are? Maybe your kids are too rambunctious and prohibit you from being able to concentrate every time you try to get something done.
Whatever the excuse is, notice how you are likely putting the blame onto somebody or something else.
While those reasonings may very well be partially true, how likely are you to take any responsibility for any of the things that are preventing you from succeeding? Probably not very likely.
That’s not meant to make you feel down on yourself in any way whatsoever, it’s just easier to place blame on somebody else, and who doesn’t like doing things the easy way?
But as you blame others for the things that happen in your life, you need to know that you are simultaneously sabotaging yourself. You are preventing yourself from succeeding, and you are preventing yourself from living the life you want to be living.
Your boss disliking you isn’t the reason why you haven’t received a raise. You may have a lot of work to get done, but it isn’t enough to stop you from getting a raise. Maybe your kids are rambunctious and annoy you when you try to work. But the only person to blame for not getting that raise at work is yourself.
You need to want it, and if you don’t have it or aren’t making progress towards it, then you simply don’t want it bad enough. If you wanted that raise badly enough, you would be doing whatever was required to get it. You would be making time to work when your kids were asleep, and you would be getting all of your work done while going above and beyond to try and change your boss’s opinion of you.
How do I know this works? Because there are many out there in the same predicament as you are who are making the most of every opportunity that they have in front of them, and it is those individuals who are receiving a raise.
How to quit preventing yourself from succeeding
This isn’t just about preventing yourself from receiving a raise, this is about preventing yourself from succeeding in life. If you want to succeed, then the best way to do so is to start taking responsibility and realize that you are the only person standing in your way.
First, you need to let go of your ego. Every person on the face of this planet makes mistakes. Yes, even those who run the largest companies in the world, the individuals who achieve their dreams, and the athletes who are admired by millions make mistakes each and every single day. Allow yourself to make them as well. Making mistakes doesn’t make you weaker. If anything, it makes you stronger because only then will you be able to learn and progress.
Second, you need to get out of your own head. The world around you and those who live in it are going to show you the same respect that you show yourself. Go after what it is that you want to accomplish, have the belief that you will achieve everything that you set out to achieve, and things will start to fall in place that will help you to succeed.
Lastly, take responsibility. This is your life and you need to be willing to make the most of it. This means that you need to quit blaming others, quit making excuses, and go after everything that you want with all of your might. If you want something badly enough, you will find a way to make it happen.
This is your life, and this is your choice. If you want to achieve all that you are meant to achieve, then quit preventing yourself from succeeding. Work hard, believe in yourself, and make your dreams into your reality.
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