Recently, I have been told by a few people that I have changed. Now mind you, these aren’t just random strangers or people that I don’t really know too well telling me that I have changed. This is coming from several individuals who know me the best. And it got me thinking about how right they are. I have changed.
My first initial instinct was to get defensive. I felt as if I needed to justify myself to them, and simultaneously, I started to question myself as well. I started thinking about all of the ways that I have changed and started to wonder whether or not I should go back to the “old me” instead of embracing the “new me.”
I have always had a difficult time with change. It doesn’t matter how big or small the change might be, if it falls outside of my normal daily routine, I struggle to accept it. I also struggle with potentially disappointing others, especially those who are closest to me. So when somebody tells me that I have changed – whether it’s good or bad change – I immediately start to assume the worst and try to “fix” my habits for the sake of approval.
I didn’t know the context behind being told that I have changed, and honestly, I don’t know if it really matters. All I knew was that it was finally time to quit fearing change and learn to embrace it instead. What I needed to realize (and this is something that I think we all need to do a better job of realizing) is that change is actually a good thing. We don’t need to fear change. We need to quit fearing change. We need to fear complacency and never allowing ourselves the opportunity to change.
How I Have Changed
I have changed so much over the course of the last two years. For starters, my writing has changed. I went from solely talking about my obstacles and struggles to still doing so, but also writing about things that I believe are going to be beneficial to the lives of others. Becoming more productive and continuing to test myself on a daily basis is something that I am passionate about doing. For this reason, I want to write about it.
Secondly, I went from being depressed and miserable with my life to finally finding my voice. No, it wasn’t easy. And yes, I am still being judged for the things that I do on a daily basis and for the person that I am becoming. But to be completely and entirely honest, I am happier today than I have ever been in my life. I also feel more confident in my abilities and am more optimistic for in the life that is to come.
Lastly, I went from giving myself zero chance of living a meaningful life to seeing endless possibilities open up directly in front of me. While I am still a work in progress (and always will be), this is largely attributed to the fact that I started to take more chances on myself, I started following my goals and dreams, and because I have started to seek more opportunities for adventure.
Quit Fearing Change
The point is, you need to do your best to quit fearing change. Others are right, I am not the same person that I once was, nor do I want to be. I’m not even the same person that I was yesterday. You shouldn’t want to be either. With every day that passes, you should try to grow from the person that you are into the person that you want to become. If you don’t quit fearing change, then you are never going to learn. If you aren’t willing to learn, then you are never going to achieve more than what you have already achieved.
Do you want to be the same person that you were yesterday? Hopefully not. Do you want to be the same person in two years from now? For your sake, I sure hope not. But the only way you are going to grow into the person you want to become is if you quit fearing change and start progressing forward no matter how scary it may feel.
How to Quit Fearing Change
In case you don’t know what steps to take to overcome your fear of change, try these tips. They have helped me to embrace change and I believe they will help to benefit you as well.
1. See Change As An Opportunity To Grow
Nothing changes in life if you aren’t willing to change. Acknowledge the fact that with change, you might just fail. But also acknowledge the fact that with change, you might just succeed. Unless you change, you will never reach your true full potential.
2. Reward Yourself
When you branch out of your comfort zone, reward yourself for it. Do something nice for yourself. Change is scary, and by rewarding yourself for changing, you are reinforcing the belief that failure is actually a good thing.
3. Focus on Your Destination
If you want to get somewhere in life that you have not yet reached, then you need to do something that you haven’t yet done. You need to quit fearing change and learn to accept it instead.
There are always going to be people who don’t see, think, or feel the same way that you do. This doesn’t mean that anybody is right or wrong. It just means that we are different, and that’s completely okay.
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to live your life. Stay true to yourself, never stop learning, never stop growing, and never stop trying to achieve each and every single one of your dreams. Quit fearing change and surely you will get there.