Everyone experiences fear from time to time. Fear is something that can stop you dead in your tracks. It is something that can also determine your success long before you even get started. And it’s okay to feel these feelings of few, but very few of us actually know of an effective process to overcome fear.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
For a good portion of my young life, I have been controlled by my fears. What will others think about me? What if I don’t live up to the expectations of others or of myself? Will I ever achieve my dreams? Will I ever like myself for who I am?
These are just a few of the fears that I thought about on a daily basis, and they were ones that held me back from realizing all that I am actually capable of achieving.
The sad thing is that I’m not alone. All of us are held back by some type of fear. Whether it is the fear of failure, fear of regret, or the fear of not belonging, there is someone or something in our life that we fear.
For some, fear can be permanent. Whatever it is that they fear, they feel that their fear is too powerful to overcome or that they don’t have the ability or strength to overcome it. Instead of trying to overcome said fear, they become content with living a life of mediocrity.
When it comes to overcoming fear (or making any change to your life), the pain of staying in your current situation must be greater than the pain of making a change. If it’s not, there is not going to be anything to motivate you when the going gets tough.
What I mean by this is that you have to want to change. You have to be so fed up with your current reality that you are willing to do anything and everything to change it. No matter what you do, there are always going to be things that you fear in life.
Fear is normal! The goal isn’t to live a life without fear or pretend that it doesn’t exist, but rather to overcome it so that it doesn’t consume any more of your life than it already has.
A 3-Step Process to Overcome Fear
So how do you overcome your fears and regain control of your life? Here are three steps that have helped me to overcome my fears that I believe will help you as well.
Again, I am not perfect, but the life that I am living now is far more enjoyable than the one I was once living, and part of my happiness can be attributed to these three steps that I am about to share with you.
Step 1: Recognize Your Fears
In order to overcome any fear in your life, you first need to be willing to admit its existence. If you fail to acknowledge your fears, you won’t think that there is one to overcome in the first place.
How do you recognize your fears? Start by thinking of some of the excuses that have held you back in the past.
For me, some of my fears are: spending too much money and going broke, not living up to the expectations that I have set for myself, afraid of what people may think of me, and the worst one of all, the fear of regretting not doing more with the time that I had.
It’s important to remember that nobody is born with success. Those who have achieved the success that you envy have done so by recognizing their fears, and by altering their lives accordingly to take the appropriate actions required to overcome their fears.
Step 2: Ask Yourself: What’s The Worst That Could Happen?
One thing that helps to make the appropriate alterations to one’s life is by asking the simple question: What’s the worst that could happen?
Often times, we draw conclusions within our own minds for how we think a certain situation will go. Rarely do we realize that these conclusions will never actually happen.
If worse comes to worst, what’s the worst that could happen? Who cares if you fail, if you get knocked down, or if you fall down. The consequences of taking a chance on yourself are not nearly as substantial as never even giving yourself the chance to succeed.
If nothing else, asking yourself ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’ will help to put things into perspective – generally that the worst-case scenario isn’t one that you can’t overcome.
Step 3: Full Steam Ahead
So you’ve recognized your fears and you have thought about the worst-case scenario. All that’s left to do now is to go full steam ahead.
You can sit and ponder the thought of taking action towards overcoming your fears all you want, but nothing will ever change until you actually the action towards overcoming these fears. It’s time that you start to take action towards overcoming your fears and hold nothing back, because if you don’t, then you will never know what could have been different.
At the end of your life, you aren’t going to look back and regret all the times that you failed or messed up, but you will regret not doing more with the time that you have. The only sure way to avoid this feeling is to take action towards overcoming your fears.
I know that is far easier said than done. In fact, I struggle with fear on a daily basis. But when I finally gain enough strength to work towards overcoming them, I often realize that they aren’t as big of a deal as I made them out to be.
If you are truly fed up with your current state to the point where you are even pondering significant change, then what choice do you have but to move forward towards overcoming your fears? You owe it to yourself to live the life that you desire, so hold nothing back, and create the life that you deserve to live.
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