We Are Not Better Than Anybody Else

Daily Blog #338

In a world that consists of comparing ourselves by social and economic status, and judging others based on their imperfections, it’s time that we give ourselves a little bit of a reality check. You and I, we are not better than anybody else on this earth.

Sometimes I forget what it is like to be human. Not because I have superpowers that can’t be matched by others. But because the days seem to go by in the blink of an eye, I lose sight of my intentions, and then almost like a robot, I become one of “them.” One them in being somebody who becomes negative in the face of adversity, and somebody who judges others when things aren’t going their way in an effort to make themselves feel better.

It’s not that I enjoy judging others or that I think that I am better than anybody else. Trust me, I gain nothing from judging others. But for some reason, I still do it when I am face-to-face with my own insecurities, when I am rushing through life instead of enjoying every living moment, and when enough things have gone wrong in the day where I just need to win at something.

Instead of working towards something meaningful or something that will actually provide some type of benefit to my life, I resort to taking the cowards way out. I judge somebody else based on their flaws just to make myself feel better while temporarily covering up the flaws of my own. And I am not the only person who does this, we all do. It’s far easier to point out what’s wrong with everybody else instead of taking ownership of our own lives.

In times like this though, it is important to remember that we are not better than anybody else. I am not saying that we should degrade ourselves and that we aren’t capable of achieving greatness. But instead of judging others, we should learn to be humble and treat everybody with the same level of respect that we wish to receive. Everybody has things in which they excel at, and everybody has things that they struggle with. Until we are perfect (don’t worry, we will never be) we have zero right to judge others based on their imperfections.

The truth is, judging others will not provide any value to our life. While it may help us to “feel better” about ourselves and help to cover up our own insecurities, this will only last temporarily. The next time that we face struggles or stress, guess what is going to reappear… our own insecurities. That is, of course, until we mask them through judging others which will eventually leave us feeling even lousier than before.

If we really want to learn to overcome our own insecurities, then we need to be willing to go head-to-head with the root of the problem and work towards solving it.

I’m not going to lie, judging others and pointing our everybody else’s flaws is a lot easier than pointing out your own. But at the same time, it will never solve anything meaningful in your life. The more we judge others for their flaws in life, the more our flaws grow until they consume our every last thought. Eventually, we will become a hot mess of our own and criticize everything wrong in our life instead of all of the good.

This is why we all need to learn to quit taking the cowards way out, learn how to battle our own insecurities, and learn to start pointing out all of the good in others instead of focusing on the negatives.

You can hold others accountable without judging them, but also remember to hold yourself accountable as well.

So I want to challenge all of us: you, me, and everybody else. The next time that we are stressed out to the max, when we feel like robots as we go throughout the day, or when we lost sight of our intentions, try to stop and focus. Try to focus on your thoughts, and try to focus on the true reason for why you are judging those around you.

Think you have what it takes to recognize your own weaknesses before trying to find the weaknesses in those around you? It’s not as easy as you might think, but I promise you that it will be worth it. Not only will you learn to overcome your own insecurities, but you will also be making the world a better place in doing so. If you ask me, that’s a challenge worth accepting.

Michael Bonnell

4/3/2019

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