Being Told No Is Never The Final Answer

Daily Blog #339

Rejection sucks. Especially when you are being rejected from something that you care deeply about. But while you may not know it at the time, being told no may be one of the best things that can happen to you.

When do you learn the most valuable lessons in your life? Probably when you strive to overcome your fears and decide that it’s finally time to take a chance on yourself, or when you are being told no by somebody else and develop a “watch me” mentality. And that’s what is required in order to succeed in anything.

For all of the people out there in the world who are like me: people who have experienced enough rejection to make them cry, to make them depressed, or to make them feel like they will never amount to anything meaningful, listen up. Being told no is never the final answer unless you allow it to be. While you may not be able to control how many times you have been and will be rejected, you can control how you allow that rejection to impact your life.

There are going to be times where you are going to feel defeated. There are going to be times where you want so badly to give up, and times where you question if you truly have what it takes to achieve the goals that you set for yourself. The good news is that everybody experiences these doubts, even those who you think to be successful. And if anyone tells you otherwise, they are flat out lying to you.

“Success is never deserved. Success is always earned.” – Robin S. Sharma

Achieving a goal, a dream, or anything that you think resembles success will never be given to you. No matter what it is, success is always earned in some way, shape, or form. And it’s not going to come by allowing all of your fears and doubts to control you. It’s going to come from never allowing the word “no” to be the final answer.

Sure, I may only be in my mid-twenties, but I still think of myself as being successful, especially for my age. The best part is that I now walk around carrying that confidence. Not in an ignorant way, or in a way where I think I am superior to anybody else. But in a way where I truly believe that I can and will accomplish anything and everything that I put my mind to.

Back to the age thing… if age matters, then tell me why I am a top performer for a nationally known company when I am by far the youngest person on my team. The truth is, age doesn’t matter. Age is just an excuse that everyone (both old and young) are willing to use for why it is that they can’t achieve something.

I am not successful because I am younger than others, or because I have had everything handed to me in life on a silver platter. I am successful because I am the hardest working person in the room and I refuse to let my fears and doubts stop me from accomplishing the things that I want to achieve in life. It’s not easy to overcome your fears, but at the same time, your fears are only going to consume you if you allow them to. We can either let our fears stop us from living our lives, or we can make mistakes and know what it means to live. The choice is ours to make.

The point of this is to encourage you to go after whatever it is that you want in life. Again, there are going to be many roadblocks that are going to pop up in your way. But a roadblock doesn’t mean you stop moving forward. It simply means that you find a different route to take. You go in a different direction towards the same destination. And that’s exactly what you need to do if you want to succeed in life.

Don’t allow your fears to consume you, your doubts to blind you, or being told “no” to become your final answer. When you do, then you are already determining your own fate. Those around us, and even life itself are going to show you the same amount of respect that you show yourself. If you don’t think you’re good enough, then nothing good will come your way. But when you fight, when you believe, and when you chase your dreams, only then will you achieve.

Start today. Start this very moment and quit letting no become your final answer. If you don’t, you will never know what your life could have been had you of kept on moving forward.

Michael Bonnell

4/4/2019

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