Never regret who you truly are. It is when you start to regret things in life that you become miserable and start focusing on what it is that you can’t change, instead of focusing on the blessings that you already have.
The lies that you are feeding yourself just to be someone you’re not, the shame you are holding, and the embarrassment that you yourself feel on a daily basis. There is nothing worse in life than regretting who you truly are. Trust me, I know how it feels. I used to wake up everyday and regret the person that I truly was.
Why can’t I look like that guy? Why is that person so much better than me at sports? How come that person has so many more friends than I do? Why am I fat? Why is it so hard for me to talk to girls? Notice how I said is…
Jeez I sound like a broken record, but it is the truth. These are the things that I used to focus on and think about on a daily basis. There wasn’t one thing that I used to like about myself. In my head, I was never good enough.
But regretting who you truly are and trying to force yourself to become some you’re will not solve anything. In fact, it will lead to a lonely and miserable life. Trust me on this one.
I didn’t start exercising to become healthier. I started exercising to “look healthier” so that other people would give me attention. Look what that caused. Years of self-abuse, self-hatred, and an eating disorder. All of that because I was trying to force myself to become someone that I wasn’t. I was trying to force myself to become the person that others wanted me to be instead of becoming the best version of who I truly am.
Now if you were to ask me today what I regret most in life, I will tell you that I truthfully don’t regret anything. This isn’t some BS lie that I am trying to feed you. I truthfully don’t have any regrets in life. Not even some of the worst things that have ever happened to me.
If you were to ask me, regretting things from your past will never do you any good. All of the time that you are spending and focusing on the past, and focusing on things that you will never be able to change, you are simply wasting the present moment. Not only are you never going to be able to relive the past, but you will never be able to relive the present.
Now that isn’t to say that if I had the opportunity to go back in time, that I wouldn’t change anything. But I don’t have that opportunity, and nor will I ever. The past has come and gone, so I have come to the realization that focusing on the past will only take away from me living my best life. I am done wasting my time on things that I can’t change. From here on out, this is my life and I am going to live it to the fullest.
To be completely honest, I am actually happy with the past. I am happy that I was diagnosed with depression, an eating disorder, and anxiety. I am happy that I was teased for my weight. All of these hardships helped shape me into the person that I am today. Without facing these adversities and finding my true strength, I truly don’t know where I would be today.
So instead of looking at the past with regret, learn to focus on the positives. Learn to find your true strength, and never regret who you truly are. As long as you are a better version of you than you were yesterday, that is all that you can truly ask for. Live your best life, and let your true light shine.
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