One Habit That Is Stopping You from Moving Forward In Life

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Think back on all of the times where you thought you had this genius idea that randomly popped into your mind. 

Did you acknowledge that idea and envision your life if it had come true? Did you develop a plan to turn that idea into your reality? Did you take any sort of action in actually trying to fulfill that idea? 

It is said that over the course of our lives, everybody will come up with at least one $1 million idea. Unfortunately, a very miniscule percentage of these ideas actually come to fruition. 

According to Dave Ramsey, nearly six percent of individuals in the United States are millionaires. That seems like a large number, doesn’t it? I mean, that’s six percent of the population that has seven-figures in their savings account. 

But it’s actually not that much, especially when we all have the capability and knowledge to become millionaires. When you really think about it, that’s only six percent of individuals who are finding the strength and courage to act on that million-dollar idea that popped into their minds. 

They don’t have superpowers. They aren’t superhuman. And they aren’t any better than you or me. The only thing that differentiates millionaires, or any successful person for that matter, is their willingness to act on their ideas

Why is that? Why do we often pass on the ideas that we come up with? 

It’s because, just like I have over the course of my life, you too have developed this one habit that is stopping you from moving forward in life. That habit that I am talking about – holding on to your past

Too often we allow old failures and old rejections to stop us from moving forward in life. We allow these failures and rejections to stop us from making any sort of progress in this very present moment. 

Have you ever been laid off from a job? How long did it take for you to go out and start applying to another one? Did you feel embarrassed and lacked confidence? Probably. And why? Because you were holding on to your past failures and rejections. 

Have you ever been made fun of so badly that it stopped you from doing something that you thought was fun and enjoyable? Probably. And why? Because you allowed that one negative experience to control your present moment. 

Have you ever been rejected or shut down by somebody you liked? This one is still relevant in my life. I have trouble talking to others who I like and asking them on dates. And why? Because I have allowed my past rejections and failures to control my present moment. 

Each and every day, you have a choice to make. When an experience in your life holds any ounce of meaning, your brain will recognize it as being important and will hold onto it. 

When you have a negative experience, it sends signals to your brain and triggers your brain’s fear mechanism. Your brain is there to protect you, and so what does it do? It warns you to avoid any challenge that carries risk. 

Depending on how emotionally attached you are to the original experience, your brain can also play games with you. Every time you see something that reminds you of a negative experience, or even at random times where your mind is wandering, your brain can flashback to any negative experience that it endured.

This is especially true when it comes to personal failures and rejections. All this does is causes you to become even more fearful of the experience, and it prevents you from moving forward in life. 

When your brain is reflecting on these negative experiences, want to know the best thing to do to overcome them? Recognize your feelings. 

Don’t try to fight off the negative experience that your brain is reflecting on. That will only give that experience more power. Instead, acknowledge the experience, reflect on the positives that you can take away from that experience, and gently push it to the side of your mind. 

Like Elsa said, “Let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore.” 

Everybody experiences failure and rejection over the course of their life. Failure and rejection are simply a part of life. To try to go through life without experiencing failure and rejection is to say that you aren’t willing to create a better life for yourself. With every opportunity comes the chance of failure and rejection. In order to succeed, you need to be willing to grasp every opportunity that you can. 

There’s no doubt that it’s a process. Some days you are going to feel as if you are winning the battle of conquering your fears, and other days you are going to feel like your fears are conquering you. 

Progress, not perfection. 

Focus on progressing from the individual that you are now into the individual that you want to be. In order to become the individual that you want to be, you are going to need to take chances. Yes, these chances can lead to failure and rejection, but they can also lead to the life that you have always dreamed of living.

Michael Bonnell

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