We are all creatures of habit. Truth be told, habits are what consume the majority of our days. We like to follow the same schedule, have the same daily routine, and associate with the same individuals.
But some of the habits that we develop can take a negative toll on us. Habits such as biting our nails, looking at our phones too much, not getting enough exercise, or staying up too late and not getting enough sleep.
Those aren’t even our most unhealthy habit. In fact, the damage that those habits cause are pretty miniscule compared to the damage caused by the most unhealthy habit that we have, and the most unhealthy habit that we have is constantly beating ourselves up for all of our flaws.
The Most Unhealthy Habit
How often do you find yourself coming up with excuses for why you can’t do something or why you can’t achieve the things that you want? Of course you do, we all do.
I’m not good enough. I don’t have the skills required to achieve the goals that I want. I’m just going to wait for a better time. It’s not worth it because I am going to fail anyway. Others are going to be more successful so I’m not even going to try.
The more that we come up with these excuses, the less likely we are to even get started in the first place. We fall into the habit of giving up on ourselves before getting started, and eventually, we quit setting goals for ourselves entirely because we don’t believe that we can achieve them in the first place.
The thing that you need to remember is that you are not your excuses. You are good enough, you do have the strength to achieve any of the goals that you set, and as long as you believe in yourself enough, nobody is going to be able to stop you from achieving all that you want.
The only way to ever know what you are truly capable of achieving is to actually try. You can sit and make excuses for why you can’t achieve the things that you want, but unless you actually try, you will never truly know.
The Damaging Effect of Excuses
What happens when you make excuses for yourself? You beat yourself up for not being good enough and for not having the strength to overcome your excuses. You look at all of your imperfections and think those are what comprise you instead of the incredible attributes that make you the person who you are.
“Beating yourself up is like trying to get out of a hole while digging it deeper.” – Gail Lynne Goodwin
Many people go through life making excuses for why they can’t achieve the things that they desire. The longer they go through life doing so, the less they believe in their ability to do much of anything, and the most they grow to hate the person they are.
Beating yourself up for all of your flaws doesn’t bring any value to your life, though. It’s not going to fix what has already happened or what is broken, and it’s not going to make you feel any better about yourself as an individual.
Needless to say, beating yourself up both mentally and physically is the most harmful thing that you can do to yourself. It’s going to cause you to hate yourself, and to hate the greatest gift you were blessed with, the gift of life.
What You Should Focus On Instead
Instead of focusing on all of your flaws and beating yourself up for not being perfect, recognize all that you have already accomplished and learn to do your best with everything that you do. When you focus on being perfect, you will always find a reason for why you shouldn’t act on your goals because you don’t want to be disappointed in your inability to be perfect.
Whether you believe it to be true or not, you have achieved more throughout your life than you give yourself credit for, all while being your imperfect self. You don’t recognize it though because you are focused on wanting more instead of appreciating all that you have.
You will never be perfect, you are going to make mistakes, and there are going to be times where you are going to want to give up. But no matter what you feel, never beat yourself up for doing your best. As long as you are giving your goals every bit of effort that you have, you have nothing to be disappointed about.
Set Aside Your Excuses
In the instances where you are willing to make excuses and proceed to beat yourself up for doing so, know that this will only push you away even further from setting any meaningful goals. Stop focusing on perfection, move past all of the judgment that you experience, and set aside your excuses.
It’s never worth it to beat yourself up for being you. You are you and that is your greatest power. Give life your very best effort and make the most out of every opportunity that you have in front of you. As long as you are doing your best and are proud of yourself, everything that you want in life will find its way to you.
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