How to create memories that will last forever
We are often told that nothing will ever last forever. The house that we currently live in, the friends that we have, the emotions that we are feeling, even the life that we have. It’s true, none of these things are going to last forever. At any given moment, all of these things could be taken away. But there is one exception. What will last forever are the memories that we create with the time that we have.
This past week has been nothing short of incredible. As I continue to challenge myself and break out of my natural habits, I am realizing how much of life I was actually missing out on. I have been putting myself in situations where I am not in full control. To be honest, it is kind of fun.
It all started on Tuesday. After work, a few close friends and I went to a professional hockey game. We packed in my car, drove down to the arena, and simply had a good night. Some of my friends had a really good time. A $150 bar tab and having to be carried to the car type of good time.
The entire ride home was one crazy loud jam session in the car. It got to the point where one of my friends and I were sitting in the two front seats, and another friend sitting on the center console between the two of us just to capture the good times on video.
Was it stupid to have three people in the front seat going 70 miles per hour down a freeway? Absolutely. But now, it has become a memory that I will never forget for the rest of my life.
The fun and excitement continued into the weekend. My younger brother (not really younger brother) had just turned 21 years old, and I decided that as a 25 year old, I wanted to go back and relive college again. Only this time, I was going to do it right. So on Saturday morning, I packed my bags, and I made the two hour drive back to college for a night.
During the four years that I went to college, I didn’t really hang out with my friends. At least not as much as I should have. It’s not that I regret my decisions, it just know that my head was in a different place than where it is at right now.
When I would have been asked to go out, I would have came up with some dumb excuse that I either had a massive test the next morning, or I wasn’t feeling well. The truth is, I was scared of not having control, and I was too worried about food and alcohol. I didn’t want to eat fast food, bar food, or drink alcohol. I thought that going out once in a while would have ruined my physique, and that would have been difficult for me to deal with mentally at the time.
So while I said that I wanted to take my younger brother out for his 21st birthday, this weekend was for me as well. It was also a way for me to put myself into a unfamiliar situation, and a situation where I didn’t have control.
You might be thinking that this sounds like a typical weekend for a 25 year old. Well, I am not your typical 25 year old. Rarely would I go out with friends on the weekends, let alone a weeknight, and it is even more rare for me to drive two hours to go see some friends. It took a lot for me to place myself in both of these situations, but all I can say is that I am glad that I did.
In both instances I was forced to face my fears, give up all control, and focus solely on living in the present moment. And in both instances, guess what happened? I had more fun with these two groups of friends than I have ever had before. I felt alive and happy. Better yet, I was able to create memories that will last forever.
In reflecting on this past week, I realized that sometimes having no plan can lead to the greatest moments in life. So let’s quit waiting. Let’s learn to cherish the moments with our friends, cherish the time that we spend with our families, and create memories that will last forever. Let’s live our best life. We have nothing to lose, except the memories themselves.
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