Going into the new year, one of my goals is to be more conscious of the decisions that I make in life. I really want to make it my goal to put an emphasis on slowing down, recognizing what lies in front of me, and making a conscious decision so that I know I won’t regret it later on in my life.
For the record, I am the type of person who has zero regrets. Ask me anything about my past, and I will tell you. Ask me what I was thinking when I made some of the stupid decisions that I made, and I will tell you. I believe that every decision that we have made up to this point in our lives has got us to exactly where it is that we are today. Truth be told, I wouldn’t trade who I am today for anything.
But it hasn’t always been easy. I haven’t always been the best at making decisions. Instead of acting out of what might be best for me, I would allow my fears to do the talking for me. I was so scared of what might happen, that I would just say no and never give myself the opportunity to actually find out.
Facing Our Fear of Failure
An example of this. I told myself that I was going to start looking for a new job roughly a year before I actually did. I wanted a change, but the thought of leaving a job that I felt comfortable and secure at was enough to keep me from taking a chance on myself. Thoughts of failure, thoughts of disappointment, and thoughts of regret would flood my mind every time I looked at a new job posting.
It took me more than a year to find a new job. Who knows, if I started sooner, maybe I would be a year ahead of where I am now. Maybe I would be a year wiser than I am now. Maybe I would be a year stronger than I am now.
These are all possibilities that I will never know the answer to because I had waited for ‘the right time,’ instead of taking action when I first had the desire to.
Maybe you are like me and often times find yourself waiting for the ‘perfect time’ to start taking any chances on yourself.
The truth is, there is never a perfect time. There is always going to be something that comes up in life, an emotional obstacle that you are going to need to overcome, or a fear that is going to try and hold you back.
None of these things matter though, because with time, everything will work out just as it should.
How To Live Your Life Without Any Regret
There is one question that I am going to live by from here on out. One question that is going to be the deciding factor behind every key decision I make, and one question that is going to help me to live my life without any regret.
In ten years, am I going to regret NOT doing this?
Whatever thought or decision you are wanting to make but find your fears stopping you from doing so, ask yourself if, in ten years, you are going to regret not taking the chance. If you think you are going to regret NOT doing something, then the answer is simple. Don’t think about it any longer. Just do it.
If an opportunity or a thought comes about and you don’t think you will regret not doing something, then move on. Use your time better. Do something that actually brings some value to your life.
Not Regretting Anything
There are still going to be times where we make mistakes. There are going to be times when we fall, times when we fail, and times when we are going to doubt. But what would you rather experience? Would you rather experience fear, failure, and doubt, but know that you are progressing in the right direction? Or would you rather experience never even coming close to your true potential?
Life isn’t about being perfect. It’s about progressing into being the best person that you can be. Quit letting your fear of not being perfect stop you from living your life to the absolute fullest. Listen to your hear, do what’s best for you, and live your life without any regret.