The older you get, the quicker life passes you by. At least, that’s what it feels like for me. I remember the times where I would be sitting in school and staring at the clock as a kid thinking that the day was never going to end. As I have grown older, it almost feels as if the duration of time has changed. Now, I purposely try to not look at the clock when I am at work simply because time is going by too quickly and I still have a lot to do.
My mentality over the years has completely changed. I went from being a person who wanted time to pass by quickly, to being a person who would do anything for time to slow down. The sad part is that I am only twenty-six. If time is passing by this fast at twenty-six, I don’t want to know how fast it’s going to pass by when I’m forty, sixty, or eighty.
As I look back at my childhood, only now can I see how much time I actually wasted. I would often hear adults tell me to enjoy being a kid because adulting will come soon enough, but it wasn’t until I actually became more of an adult that I started to wish I would have listened.
By no means was my life bad growing up. In fact, I was incredibly blessed. I had a family who (and still does) love me, was given every opportunity I could have imagined, and yes, there were even a few times when I was spoiled by receiving every little thing my heart desired.
At the same time, though, I still felt somewhat unsatisfied. I wanted more. I wanted to be more. I wanted to live more. And while I thought that I had to have in order to live a better life, I had failed to realize that living a life well-lived truthfully starts from within.
Maybe you are like me and have found yourself wishing for time to slow down. Maybe you are like me in wishing you would have done more with your time. Or maybe you are like me and just wish you would have lived a life well-lived.
If that’s the case, pay attention. First of all, I want you to know and to realize that it’s not too late. As long as you are still breathing, there is still time to live a life well-lived.
Secondly, I want to share with you some of the tips that I have used that have helped me to find a greater sense of joy, a greater sense of happiness, and a greater sense of fulfillment in my life.
Here are 4 secrets to help you live a life well-lived.
1. Enjoy every minute like it’s your last.
If there was one piece of advice that I could give to my younger self, it would be to soak it all in. Even as I get older, this is still something that I have to forcefully focus on from time to time.
Don’t watch the time pass you by. Don’t pass up on opportunities and wait for a better time or another day. The best time to live your life is right now simply because right now is the only time that you are guaranteed to be alive.
When I look back to the days of watching the clock pass by, I wish I would have known just how much my future self wishes he could go back to the days of learning. This isn’t to say that I don’t love my job, but back then, I didn’t have nearly (if any) responsibilities. I think we can all agree that it would be nice to have less responsibility and less stress every once in a while.
Who knows what the future hold, though. Maybe it holds more responsibility. Maybe it holds more stress. The point is, you just never know. So instead of reminiscing on your past, learn from it and live every moment of the present like it’s your last.
2. Turn your dreams into your reality.
Speaking of being a kid, do you remember how you used to have such a crazy imagination when you were younger? Growing up, I always wanted to be a policeman, a firefighter, or a professional hockey player.
It’s not that these goals are unachievable by any means, but part of me also started to listen to the judgment of others. I wasn’t good enough to play professional hockey. I was too fat, too slow, and too dumb to do anything that meaningful with my life.
The older I got, the more I listened to the judgment of my peers. Eventually, it became too late. I wasn’t going to be a professional hockey player, I had given up on my childhood dream of becoming a policeman, and truth be told, I lost my desire to become a firefighter.
Part of me wishes that I wouldn’t have given up. I wish I would have fought through the judgment, the criticism, and the opinions of those who hold zero relevance in my life today. I wish I would have then turned my dreams into my reality.
Well, that’s what I’m doing today. That’s why I am such an advocate of going out and creating the very life that you want to live. You are going to be judged if you decide to chase your dreams, and you are going to be judged if you decide to conform to societal norms. Wouldn’t you rather be judged for being your authentic self and trying to create a life where you feel fulfilled?
3. Take more chances and learn from your mistakes.
There is one thing for certain; if you want to live a life that you aren’t currently living, then you need to be willing to do something that you aren’t currently doing. If you are like me, that means that you need to be willing to take more chances on yourself, and you need to be willing to make mistakes so that you can learn from these mistakes.
In my past, I will admit that I didn’t take nearly as many chances on myself as I should have. A lot of my hesitation came from the fact that I didn’t want to be judged or to be seen as a failure in the eyes of others.
I wanted to create a better life for myself – a life well-lived, but I was scared. As a result, nothing in my life really changed. I was not making any progress towards my goals, I was not achieving the success that I hoped to achieve, and I was not doing a very good job of living my life to the fullest.
The way I see it now, you need to take chances on yourself. You need to be willing to make mistakes, because if you are willing to make mistakes, you are also willing to succeed. You will never achieve anything that you haven’t already achieved if you aren’t willing to do more than what you are already doing. So take more chances on yourself, be willing to make mistakes, and most importantly, learn from these mistakes so that you can grow from who you are into the person you want to be.
4. Accept your past and regret nothing.
Here’s the deal. No matter how badly you want to change your past, you are never going to be able to. Everything that has happened in your past is set in stone. There is no reliving the past, and there is no changing the past.
One thing that you can change, though, is your perception of your past. Surely there are things that happened to you that were out of your control, but are you really benefiting in any way, shape, or form from holding onto them? No. So don’t let negative experiences from your past consume any more of your happiness and joy than they already have.
Accept your past for what it is, learn from it, change your perception of your past, and regret nothing. Everything happens for a reason, and everything that has happened has led you to where you are today. That’s something to be grateful for.
You are in control of your own life. The option is yours to live a life controlled by the thoughts of others, or to live the life that you created for yourself – a life well-lived. It is my hope that you choose to do the latter and that these 4 tips will help you to do so.