Life is pretty freaking amazing if you ask me. Well… at least it has been lately.
Part of me wonders if I should feel guilty for saying that given all that’s currently going on in the world, but I can’t begin to express how genuinely happy I am right now.
For starters, I am back in Utah with my parents. After leaving Utah the first time around, I never thought I would actually enjoy coming back here. But, with a lot of things, I was wrong. I feel this sense of freedom, openness, and just the ability to breathe. It’s an amazing feeling.
As for work, well, work is amazing. I don’t dread waking up on Monday mornings because I actually enjoy what I do for a living. I get to help people achieve their goals and find a lot of value and meaning in the work that I do.
Lastly, I am starting my masters in January. For the foreseeable future, I am going to be studying Industrial/Organizational Psychology. The best part about it is that I get to do it for free thanks to my employer.
I was actually asking myself this very question as I was driving through the mountains of Utah yesterday. I kept asking myself What’s Changed? Why am I so happy NOW?
Honestly, all I could think about was the fact that I started listening to me for once instead of listening to everybody else. Judgements, opinions of others, even the self-help articles that I often read telling me how to be happy. I finally stopped listening to everybody around me and started focusing solely on me.
Now, I’m not against self-help articles or anything like that. For some, they may be exactly what you need. But for me, I needed the exact opposite of what most of them were saying.
For example, if you Google ‘how to be happier in life,’ you are probably going to come across a lot of articles that tell you to exercise more, to eat healthier, and to take some time for yourself.
All three of these examples are the exact opposite of what I should have been doing – but I was doing anyway.
My diet was too healthy. I wasn’t enjoying food, the many unique tastes of the world, or the socialization with others that often comes with eating. Instead, I was restricting myself, eating only healthy foods, and never giving myself a chance to just eat.
I was exercising vigorously. While all of the self-help articles that I read were telling my to exercise more, I probably should have been exercising less. I still go for my morning runs, but now I actually listen to my body. If I am tired, I will jog or walk instead of trying to force my way through it. It’s honestly made exercising enjoyable again.
When it comes to being around others, I tend to be an introvert anyway, so spending even more time by myself probably wasn’t the best thing. It’s hard putting myself out there, but I am trying to do so more often, and in doing so, I have actually been having more fun.
What To Do Next
I guess what I am trying to say with all of this is that happiness isn’t a set equation that everybody needs to follow. Everybody’s life looks different. What works for you might not work for me. What works for me might not work for you.
I guess this would be the time where I should tell you to do what’s best for you. Listen to what your body and mind are telling you. If they are telling you to eat healthier, eat healthier. If they are telling you to socialize more, socialize more. But don’t go through life listening to what everybody else is telling you to the point where you forget to listen to your own intuition. Trust yourself, listen to yourself, treat yourself with care and compassion, and do more of what YOU enjoy. In doing so, I truly believe that you will come to the same conclusion as I have and realize that life is pretty amazing.