For years, I was known for my ability to “flip on a dime.”
If you don’t know what this means, it’s not necessarily a characteristic in which you want to be known by.
Imagine being happy one moment, somebody then cuts you off in traffic, and now your whole entire day has completely turned around. Your whole day went from good, to complete and utter sh*t.
No longer can you drive in traffic without blasting your horn at everybody else’s flaws, or stand in the checkout line for more than a minute before feeling like you’re going to explode, or have a conversation with someone without wanting to yell at them for not investing in listening to you complain about all of the world’s problems.
Yeah, being known to flip on a dime is not a good thing.
But I was angry. While there were times that I looked happy on the outside, a lot of what I felt on the inside was anger and hatred. Not just towards myself, or even towards others, but to the world. I felt as if I had been dealt a bad hand and was forced to spend the rest of my life in this screwed up mind. No matter what I tried to do to fix it, I was always going to be angry.
I know that this is going to seem crazy, but guess what happened to me the more I focused on all of the different things that made me angry? I became even angrier than I was before.
It was an ongoing and never-ending cycle. Something would irritate me, I would get angry and upset, and then I would let my anger ruin my entire day. The more that I did this, the angrier I became with my life.
The sad thing is that I didn’t really have a good reason to be angry in the first place. I was getting angry over things that I truly didn’t care about, and I was letting that anger control my overall outlook on life.
Why You Need To Let Go Of Anger
If you have a lot of anger built up, it’s time to let go. It’s time to free yourself from the negative emotions that you are feeling, from the pain that you are feeling, and from the regret that you will feel later in life. Here are some reasons why you need to let go of anger.
1. It Doesn’t Do You Any Good
Getting angry doesn’t do you good. It doesn’t help you solve any problems, it doesn’t make your problems go away, and it won’t make you feel any better. In fact, it will only make you feel worse. The more you focus on the things that make you angry, the angrier of a person you will become.
2. Your Relationships Suffer
Aside from the fact that constantly feeling angry will tend to leave you feeling isolated from others, nobody will want to be around you in the first place if you are constantly angry. By showing your anger, you are only going to push yourself away from your closest friends and family.
Think about it, would you want to be spending your time with someone who is constantly down? Not a chance. You would much rather spend time with those who are going to uplift you and make you feel happy, not the ones who are going to drag you down. You need to be that person for others as well. Be positive, uplift others, and you will attract stronger and happier relationships.
3. Your Quality of Life Will Decrease
You attract the things you spend most of your time focusing on. You might think that is a cliche statement, but it’s the truth. Vibrations attract similar vibrations. This means that the more positive your thoughts are, the more positive vibrations you attract. The more negative they are, well, the more negative vibrations you attract.
A good life is a happy and fulfilling life. You will feel neither happy or fulfilled if you choose to spend your time focusing on the things that anger you.
4. You Die Quicker
Yes, I saved the best for last. Studies have shown that those who are happier tend to have a longer life expectancy. According to Chris Aiken, an instructor for clinical psychiatry at the Wake Forest University School of Medicine, “In the two hours after an angry outburst, the chance of having a heart attack doubles.”
Not only that, but the angrier you are, the greater risk you have of being diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and the more prone you are for having a stroke.
Is It Worth It?
Now, I don’t know about you, but being angry doesn’t seem worth all of the risks that are associated with it. Plus, this is the one and only life that you are going to get to live, why choose to spend your time doing anything other than what makes you happy?
You attract the very things that you think about. If you want to find happiness, love, and success, then you need to get over all of the anger that you have bottled up and start focusing on becoming the person you want to be. Nothing good comes from being angry, so put aside everything that happened in your past, and live the best life that you can moving forward.
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