Learn How To Forgive Yourself
Think back on the last time that you hurt somebody by either your words or actions. Odds are that you apologized and they forgave you. Think back on the last time that somebody hurt you by either their words or actions. Odds are that they apologized and you forgave them. Now think back on the last time you hurt yourself by either your words or actions. Did you forgive yourself? Probably not. The truth is, if you want to be happy, you need to learn how to forgive yourself.
We have all made many mistakes in our past, and we are going to make many more mistakes in our future. It is just part of being human. Beating yourself up is only going to make matters worse, and it will only make life miserable. Instead of living a life of regret and guilt, learn how to forgive yourself and move forward with your life. Here are some ways to learn how to forgive yourself.
“Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe
- Realize that the past is the past.
Unless you have some magical time machine that nobody else knows about, you aren’t going to be able to go back and change the past. Now if you learn to accept the past, and learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes, you can then prevent them from happening again in the future. Accept it and move on. Life is too short to be stressing out about things that have already happened. You made a mistake, now move on.
- Admit your mistake.
As humans, we hate to admit the fact that we ever make mistakes. Yes, you and I made more mistakes on a daily basis than we can count. But if you want to learn how to forgive yourself, you first need to admit the mistake that you have made.
When we learn to admit our mistakes, we are taking ownership of our wrong doings. We are acknowledging what we have done wrong, and we are able to focus on a solution to correct our mistakes.
- Let go of the idea of perfection.
Forget the thought of being perfect. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you and I will never be perfect in life. With anything that we do, there will always be room for improvement and for growth.
Instead of focusing on perfect, focus on being the best that you can be. Not the best based on the judgement of others, but be the best that YOU can be. Focus on waking up every day and being just 1% better than you were yesterday.
- Apologize to those that you have hurt, including yourself.
When has an apology ever made a situation worse? It hasn’t. If anything, it has only helped. Apologies show that we care, they show that we are remorseful for our actions, and it shows that we have acknowledged our mistakes.
- Focus on your morales and values.
Whatever it is that you have done, you are feeling the way you do because your actions do not line up with your morales and beliefs. You know that gut instinct of yours? Well it is a very real thing. Identify your morales and your beliefs in life, and then ask yourself why it is that you are feeling the way that you are. Ask yourself why you did what you did. From there, focus on following your morals and beliefs to avoid feeling this way again.
- Treat yourself how you would treat others.
Treat others the way that you want to be treated. You have heard that before, right? Well, how about treat yourself the way that you want others to treat you….
You want others to forgive you for your mistakes. You want others to see past your imperfections. So learn to do it for yourself. If you want to learn how to forgive yourself, then treat yourself the way that you want others to treat you. Apologize to yourself, accept your mistakes, and move on.
- Focus on self-love
Move past all of the negativity in life and focus on loving yourself. To build confidence and self-esteem, you need to learn to love yourself for the person that you are. Embrace your differences, accept your imperfections, and love yourself for the amazing person that you are. Believe in yourself, love yourself, be kind to yourself, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
Take a minute and just focus on you. Focus on living a happy life, and focus on living achieving your dreams. Learn how to forgive yourself, let go of the past, and chase those dreams. Your life is too valuable to be consumed by your past, so focus on your present.
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