How many times have you heard the saying, “I am not better than you, and you are not better than me.” If not that saying, I am sure that you have heard something similar. Have you ever thought about the power and the truth that it holds? Just stop, take a moment, and think about it.
Realistically, no man or woman is better than one another. It doesn’t matter what we have accomplished, or how much we are worth, we will never be better or worse than any other human being. We are all created equal and we will always be equal. So why is it that we don’t we act like it?
While I focus a lot of my life around the importance of positivity, it is still something that I have to stop and reflect on every day. It doesn’t matter what other people do in life, or what they say about me, I am not any better than them. While I realize that I am not better than anyone, I also realize that I have the ability to make an impact for the greater good.
So let me explain where I am going with this to help clarify my thoughts. My parents and I were driving home this past weekend when we found ourselves stuck in traffic. Two lanes of angry football fans were forced to merge into one lane. Normally, cars take turns merging into one lane, right? Well, not this time.
As were were merging into the correct lane, two cars behind us started honking, drove around us on the shoulder, and flicked us off. Why? For following the orange cones and merging into one lane.
Right away my emotions went south. Instead of taking the high road, I caved. I started flicking them off as well, yelling at them, and simply let their actions consume my emotions for several minutes after.
The entire time, my mom was sitting next to me trying to tell me to calm down and to take the high road. Fueled with rage, I became angry with her that she was siding with “these assholes” instead of siding with me. After I calmed down a little bit, I just sat there in disappointment. Not at the other cars, not at her, but at myself. I realized that she was was right.
See, after sitting in about 10 more minutes of traffic, nothing happened. That’s just it, nothing else happened. I spent 10 minutes of my life sitting there, fueled by anger and rage, trying to make a statement. Trying to show that I was better than these two cars. In all reality, I was really showing that I am no different. At least I wasn’t acting any different.
Do you want to know what have showed true strength? Putting a smile on my face, giving these two cars a thumbs up, and waving at them. It is a lot more challenging, and it shows a lot more strength if we are kind to others instead of negative towards others. Well, that was the exact opposite of what I did.
Everything that I stand for and everything that I preach was the exact opposite of how I acted. I wasn’t doing any good for myself or for the others around me. I wasn’t helping to change the world by giving someone the middle finger. And I definitely was not leading by example. That is why I am disappointed.
Let me tell you, right now I am beyond disappointed in myself. While I am not going to regret this, I am definitely going to learn from it. I am going to remember this feeling of disappointment so that the next time I am in a similar situation, I will know exactly how not to act.
While I am not better than anyone, and while you are not better than anyone, there are things that we can all do to make a positive change. If you find yourself in a similar situation, do what I didn’t. Start by killing others with kindness. Kindness takes more strength, and it will go a lot further than negativity will.
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