How to quit feeling sorry for yourself
Today was a cold and rainy day in Minnesota. On these days, I am always tired when the sun is covered by clouds. It seems that no matter how many cups of coffee I drink, I just can’t wake up. Normally I am a pretty happy and optimistic person, but today my thoughts were more about self-doubt and self-pity rather than optimism. I was questioning my ability and my goals in life. Not going to lie, I felt disgusted. Here I am, blessed as can be, and I am sitting here feeling sorry for myself. Seriously? Then that little spark flicked on in my head. I realized that if you truly want to experience happiness, you need to learn how to quit feeling sorry for yourself. Let me explain what I mean by this.
Life is full of opportunity and choices. We are going to face some type of difficulty in life every single day that we are alive. It isn’t necessarily the situation that we are facing, but rather about our perception towards that situation. We can either accept it for what it is and move with our lives, or we can feel self-pity in the face of adversity. I assure you that if you are a person who feels more self-pity than acceptance, you are not going to be as happy.
Feeling sorry for ourselves is nothing more than us trying to comfort ourselves for the mistakes that we have made. Instead of taking responsibility for our actions, we immediately try to point the finger at someone else. If we just learned to accept the mistakes for what they are, we would actually be able to turn our experiences into lessons that we can learn from.
If you need help in seeing how blessed and amazing your life truly is, remember this. There are seven billion people that are living on this planet. Of these seven billion people, more than six percent are living off of less than $10 per day. Of these seven billion people, more than three billion are living off of less than $2.50 per day. What is even worse is that according to Global Issues, 22,000 children die from poverty every single day. If that is not eye-opening, then I don’t know what is.
My goal with this post is not to make you feel guilty or sad. My goal is to help you to realize how truly blessed you are and how amazing your life is. Yes, there are things in life that we aren’t going to like and appreciate, but it isn’t the end of the world. During these times, it is important for us to realize that while we think we have it bad, there is always someone that would love to be in our position. There is always someone out there who love not to have to struggle to just survive.
Let me tell you something, after seeing these statistics, my life will forever be changed. I used to complain, and I used to complain a lot. Am I proud of my previous attitudes? Absolutely not. I am not going to regret the past, as it does not do me any good. Instead, I am going to learn from it. The next time I am having a bad day because someone told me no or because I didn’t get my way, I will remember this post. I will remember that while I have the opportunity to choose what I want to do in my life, there are people out there struggling for their next meal.
We can all do a better job in seeing what a blessing life is. Instead of self-pity, understand what a blessing life truly is and how fortunate we are to have the endless amounts of opportunities that we do. Everybody is going to face challenges in their life, that is just how life is. Instead of complaining and feeling sorry for yourself, do something about it. Let your actions speak louder than your emotions. The sooner you quit feeling sorry for yourself and see what a blessing life truly is, the happier that you will be.
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