How To Change Your Thinking When Nothing Is Going Right

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7 Practical Ways to Change Your Thinking and Change Your Life

There are times in life where it feels as if everything is stacking up against you. No matter how hard you try to fight through the struggles that you are feeling, they simply feel too overwhelming to manage. You look forward to the day where you will be able to smile once again, but simply don’t know when that day is going to come. Part of you may also be questioning if that day will even come. 

Changing your mindset is no easy task. When you are struggling to find anything to be hopeful about, seeing light at the end of the dark tunnel feels like an impossibility. You get excited about change, but you can’t stand the thought of not knowing when that change is going to come. You want to work towards change, but you simply don’t know where to begin. You have the desire to change your thinking, but you don’t know how to do so. I mean, if you knew how to change your thinking, then surely you would have already done it.

As a result of the overwhelming emotions and obstacles that can fill the mind, you tend to stay put and never actually seek the change that you wish to see. And this is where we all go wrong. The antidote to despair is action. Without action, nothing will change.

Having the ability to change your thinking in any situation is a practice – a daily practice that is going to take time and effort. You can’t just expect to change your thinking without having to work for it. And just because you work for it doesn’t mean that you aren’t still going to experience bad days from time to time. 

Personally, I spend five years of my life stuck in the mindset of not knowing how to change my thinking. I was depressed, felt as if everybody and everything in life was going against me, and didn’t know if I was ever going to be able to change my mindset. 

But here I am, 2 years later, living my best life. Seriously, I am happier today than I have ever been before. I remember never knowing if my life was going to change, but through hard work and determination, I was able to create the change that I desired. 

So today, I want to share with you 6 ways that I was able to change my thinking and how you can change your thinking to help you live the life you deserve to live. 

1. Be open about your feelings. 

There’s nothing wrong about being open with your feelings. In fact, it does you more good than not to share what you are feeling with others instead of keeping all of your emotions bottled up inside. 

The more you share your feelings with others, the more insight you have as to how you can effectively change your thinking in order to live a better and happier life. Remember, though, your thoughts have power. When you think about something repeatedly, you begin to act on that thought and believe in it, so just make sure that you are getting positive insight. 

For me, I used to think that I was alone in my fight with negative emotions. But it wasn’t until I finally cracked and became open about my thoughts that I was able to get the help and insight that I needed to change my thinking. That’s why I am a firm believer that it’s the best thing that you can do for yourself. 

2. Show up and be willing to change. 

Change isn’t going to happen without you having to work for it. If you want to lose weight or become stronger but fail to go to exercise and eat healthy, do you really think that much is going to change? If you want a promotion at work but aren’t willing to work longer and harder than those around you, do you really think that you are going to get the promotion? Probably not.

Changing your thinking is the exact same concept. If you aren’t willing to practice positive behaviors and reinforce uplifting thoughts, then you are not going to see the change that you wish to see.

It’s not always going to be fun, but that is where you have to dig deep and think about the payoff in the future. Sure, you might not see immediate changes in your life, but the more you work towards changing your mindset now, the sooner you will find happiness in your life.

3. Choose your words and actions wisely.

As I mentioned earlier, your words and thoughts have power. Be sure to choose your words and thoughts carefully and with the best and most positive of intentions. If you notice yourself using words and thoughts that don’t align with your goals, recognize them, gently push them aside, and focus on thoughts and words that do align with your beliefs.

Whether you believe it to be true or not, you are the sole creator of your own life. There may be some circumstances that you don’t necessarily have the capability to control, but you always have the power of perception. As much as you can, focus on lessons that you can take away from negative circumstances, how negative thoughts make you feel, and do your best to look ahead to a bigger and brighter future for yourself.

4. Push out of your comfort zone.

Everybody has a comfort zone. Our comfort zones are intended to keep us safe and away from danger. In some instances, it can be good to stay within the boundaries of our comfort zone, but not when we want to create a change. 

If you want something out of life that you don’t currently have, then you need to be willing to do something that you aren’t currently doing – you need to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and create the change that you are seeking. 

Our minds will only change if we give them a reason to change. Staying within the walls of our comfort zone isn’t giving our minds much of a reason to change, therefore, we shouldn’t expect our minds and our thoughts to change. 

But if you do want change, then you need to be willing to create it. Instead of seeing yourself as a failure, see yourself as somebody who is learning something new and who is becoming a better individual because of your ability to learn. Every day, do something new – even if it’s something small – that is going to require you to break out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the easier it gets to branch out, and the easier it will be to change your thinking. 

5. Slow down and focus on the good.

One of the reasons that I found myself in a negative state of mind was because I would never take the time to slow down and actually appreciate all of the good things that already filled my life. Instead of appreciating all of the good, I became greedy and expected it. 

It didn’t take long for that to come back and bite me. When you expect only good things out of life, anything that doesn’t resemble good immediately becomes a negative. Soon, you start to see the negatives in life on a more frequent basis until they are all that you see. 

To prevent this, take some time out of your day, slow down for a few moments, and focus on the good in your life. Your family, your friends, the job that is supporting you, the ability to pursue any and every dream that you desire, etc. Life really is good, but if you live your life on auto-pilot and only expect the good, the bad will quickly catch up with you. 

6. Eliminate excuses and hold yourself accountable.

The thing about excuses is that they aren’t going to get you anywhere in life. The more excuses you make, the longer you will stay in a fixed mindset. The longer you stay in a fixed mindset, the longer it’s going to take to effectively change your thinking. 

One thing that will help to eliminate excuses, is to be willing to learn. Instead of saying, “I don’t know how to do [skill],” say “I don’t know how to do [skill] yet, but I’m willing to learn.” Or “I’m not good at [skill],” say “I’m not good at [skill] yet, but I’m willing to learn.”

Excuses aren’t going to get you from where you are to where you want to be, so don’t use them. You, and only you, have the power to create the life that you wish to live. As long as you are open and willing to learn, there won’t be anything that can stop you.

Final Thoughts

Changing your thinking is something that you are going to have to work for, and it’s something that you are going to have to constantly work for. Everybody wants bigger and better, so be willing to put in the work required to be a bigger and better version of the person you once were.

Michael Bonnell

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