How To Become More Likable

how to become more likable
how to become more likable

Daily Blog #258

Do you want to know how to become the most popular person in the world? Do you want to have millions of followers on social media? Maybe you want others following your every move and envying your life. If these are things that you are looking for, well, then this is not for you. Sorry.

In fact, I am not popular, I have just over one hundred followers on Twitter, and when I walk down a busy city street, nobody knows who I am. But with that said, I do have one tip that will help you to become much more likable. More likable to not only the people that matter the most to you, but more importantly, to yourself. That tip – just be who you truly are.

I have often talked about the fact that while I was growing up, I basically did whatever I could to be liked by other people. I would suddenly become interested in certain hobbies, dress a certain way, and overall, I would simply act like somebody who I wasn’t meant to be. Quite frankly, I didn’t really want to be the person that I was acting like, but I craved the attention, and I wanted to be popular.

During the time, I would be made fun of, I would be teased and picked on, and I would learn to hate every single part of the person that I was. And I mean rightfully so, because the person that I was trying to be was not the person that I was meant to be, or even the person that I truly wanted to be. My life was becoming nothing but a lie, and I grew to resent every single part of it.

For me, this is probably why I am so close with my family. If it wasn’t for my family always supporting me, and if it wasn’t for them always being there to catch me during the many times that I fell, I honestly don’t know where I would be today. Maybe I would have achieved the popularity that I craved, or maybe I would be even less popular than I already am. What I do know is that either way, I would still be the miserable person that I used to be.

It took me twenty-five years to say “screw it” and start living the life that I was meant to live. Sure, it might have been twenty-five years too late, but better late than never. And the moment that I started acting like my true self, guess what happened! All of a sudden I started loving the life that I am blessed enough to have, and all of a sudden I started growing into the person that I truly want to be. Crazy how that works, right?

Now, this is where it gets a little weird. You know how I said that I used to act a certain way to try and get the approval of others, and how that just made life seem miserable? Well, guess what else happened when I started being the person that I was meant to be? The peoples who attention I craved quickly became my friends. And they became friends with the real me, not some person who I was trying to be.

I know, it’s strange to think how life always finds a way to work itself out. After going through many trials, and even more errors trying to become somebody that I thought I had to be in order to get others to like me, the last thing that I was expecting were for those individuals to like me for the person who I actually was.

The morale of the story is to always be yourself. Not everyone is going to like the real you, and that’s okay. If others don’t like you for who you are, then they don’t deserve to be apart of your life. But those who do like you, they will like you for the real, caring, incredible person that you are. Most importantly, you will like yourself, and that is what life is about.

I say this a lot, but this is truly your one and only life to live. However you want to live your life is how you should live your life. You don’t need to impress other people, you don’t need to be liked by everyone around you, and you don’t need to be the most popular person in the world. None of those things will ever define who you are as a person. So choose to love the unique and imperfect person that you are, choose to follow your dreams, and choose to live your best life. When you do that, you will not only be liked more by your peers, but you will also be liked more by yourself. And that is what matters.

Michael Bonnell



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