I was all sorts of out of whack.
If I wasn’t working, I was hustling my ass off. If I wasn’t hustling my ass off, I was working.
For me, there was no balance. I was either all in on something, or I wasn’t in at all. That was just the mentality I had developed.
I have always had a bit of an obsessive mindset. Looking back to when I first began exercising, I can now see that it didn’t take long for me to start obsessing over it.
When I started dieting, the same thing. Work, the same thing as well.
It’s weird that I obsessed over my job when I first started out in Corporate America because growing up, I hated working and did just the bare minimum.
But once I started obsessing over exercising, it’s almost as though this “obsession switch” flipped on in my head and I began obsessing over everything. Work, exercise, blogging, dieting, these are all things that I have spent endless amounts of energy and time obsessing over. My life was consumed by these obsessions. From sunup to sundown, they controlled me.
The Important of Balance In Life
My health began to suffer as a result of these obsessions. Not just my mental health either, but also my physical health.
I was running my body into the ground without giving it any rest. I wasn’t going out with friends, creating memories, seeking adventure, or really doing anything fun.
Because of these obsessions.
I couldn’t see myself letting go of these obsessions, and the thought of not being able to commit to them on a daily basis began to cause even more anxiety and stress than I was already experiencing.
It took a trip to the ER thanks to a severe panic attack for me to finally open my eyes and see what I was doing to myself. As I sat there going through all of these different tests at 1 am, my main concern was how I was going to be able to get back home so that I could continue to work, blog, and exercise.
I guess you could say that this was my tipping point. I didn’t want to continue down this path that I was going in.
When we lack a sense of balance in life, that’s what begins to happen. We become so consumed by one aspect of life that we take away time and energy from some of the other important aspects of our life.
Example: when we work too much, we take time and energy away from exercising and moving our bodies. When we spend too much time exercising, we begin to take time and energy away from our social life. When we have too much of a social life (and yes, this is a thing), we take time and energy away from our professional, spiritual, financial, mental, and physical life as well.
This is why balance is incredibly important. When you over-invest too much time and energy into one aspect of life, all the other aspects begin to suffer.
Finding A Healthy Balance In Life
For me, I could have continued down this path with ease. I could have continued to force myself to exercise, to blog, and to keep working as hard as I could for as long as I could. Like these things simply didn’t faze me. But I just wasn’t happy anymore. I wasn’t passionate about what I was doing, and that’s why my health began to suffer.
In everything I do, that’s what I want the most – to be happy.
Everybody is going to have different things that make them tick. We all know what makes us happy and what doesn’t make us happy. When it comes to finding balance in life, it means doing less of the things we feel obligated to do and more of the things that make us happy.
That night when I was in the ER and found myself obsessing over all of the things that caused the stress behind the panic attack I was in the ER for, I finally realized how unbalanced my life was. I wasn’t having fun. I wasn’t experiencing any of the many joys that life has to offer. As a big advocate of telling others to live their best life, I had to realize that with all I was piling on myself, I wasn’t living my best life. Instead, I was working with my head down and never looked up.
Do I like working? Yes! I also enjoy exercising, writing, and all of the other things I tend to obsess over.
Well, most of them at least…
But when I found myself obsessing over one of these things, it consumed every bit of my time and energy until I just simply lost all enjoyment. Without finding a healthy balance in life, it became incredibly difficult to find any amount of enjoyment.
How I Began To Find Balance In Life
Doing More Of What Makes Me Happy
So, how do you actually begin to find balance in life?
Now, I’m no expert or anything, but personally, I started doing more of the things that made me happy. I began spending more time with my family. I started podcasting once a week or so. I also scaled back on what was once my daily blog. I was so close to reaching 1,000 consecutive days of daily blogging, but hey, what’s the point in reaching a milestone if you aren’t enjoying what you’re doing?
After scaling back my blog, I have begun to enjoy it once again. I don’t feel obligated to write when I don’t want to write. Instead, I just write when I want to or when I have something on my mind. So far, it’s been a really nice change of pace and I definitely feel as though I have regained a spark of creativity.
I Stopped Taking On More Than I Could Handle
I will admit that this was, and arguably still is my greatest weakness. There’s just something about being busy and getting shit done that I pride myself on.
But with everything I was going through, I also finally realized that it wasn’t healthy to constantly be doing something. Sometimes, my body just needs a break to relax and I was failing to give it one.
In the last few months, I have gotten a lot better at not taking on more than I can handle. If I don’t feel like running, I will take my dog on a walk instead. If I don’t feel like working, I will spend time with my family or read a good book.
Overall, I have just become a lot better at listening to my body instead of constantly trying to always push it.
Diversifying My Time As Much As Possible
I think recognizing what areas of my life were consuming too much time and what areas weren’t getting enough was a really big eye-opener. It helped me to just focus on what areas of my life needed a little bit more attention.
Now, I am trying to diversify my time and spend an equal amount of time and energy doing not only things I enjoy but things I enjoy across all aspects of my life.
When it comes to health, I am exercising in ways I enjoy exercising. When it comes to my social life, I am spending time with people I enjoy spending my time with.
Just across the board, I am simply trying to even my time out across the many aspects of my life by doing things I am enjoying.
Before You Go
Finding that sense of balance has worked wonders for me so far. I am less stressed, I feel as though I have regained that creative spark that I was lacking, I am regained passion and interest for the things I have always loved doing, and best of all, I am just happier.
That’s what you get when you balance out your life.
So if you are feeling like your life is all over the place and are holding on with every bit of strength, take a step back and find balance. Diversify your time evenly, do more of the things you enjoy, and stop constantly trying to take on more than you can handle.