It’s easy to say you want to become a better person, but what does becoming a better person actually mean to you? Many people have hopes and dreams of becoming a better person, but when it comes time to actually become better, they don’t know what that quite looks like.
The good news is that no matter where you are in life, there is always room for growth – there is always room to become a better person.
This brings up a whole different set of questions, though. What is the best way to become a better person? How do I actually become a better person? What are the most important aspects that I should be working on to become a better person?
How do I know that the set of tips I am about to share with you actually work? Because I used these very tips in my life and they helped me to find more happiness and joy for life as a whole.
I went from being angry, miserable, and blaming others for my pain to being happy and actually somewhat of an enjoyable person to be around. I am proof that these tips work, and I am here to say that if I can do it, then so can you.
So if you are tired of living a life short of the one you dream of living, then this is for you.
I want to share with you some of the most important ways to become a better person no matter what stage of life you are at and no matter what emotions you are currently feeling. It’s not going to be easy, but it will always be worth it to embrace these changes.
How to Become a Better Person – 5 Helpful Tips
1. Take care of yourself.
It all starts with you. You may not always have control over all of the different circumstances and experiences that play out over the course of your life, but you always have control over your perception of life.
When it comes to being a better person, you first need to be better for yourself. Think of it this way. If you are trying to end world hunger but don’t have enough food to feed yourself, are you going to give it away? I hope not. And I don’t mean this selfishly. I mean this as a way to say that you have to be at your best if you want to give your best and positively impact as many lives as possible. How are you going to be able to do good for others if you can’t first do good for yourself?
For starters, make sure you are getting a good night’s sleep. Strive for 7-8 hours each night. Next, have a healthy diet. Your body is your temple, so nourish it properly and treat it with care.
Also, be willing to relax. You can only do so much before you crash. Give yourself a little time for R&R so that you can regroup and come back stronger.
2. Learn to forgive.
Admittingly, this was the hardest thing for me to overcome. I held on to so much anger from my past that it affected my day to day life. All of the kids that bullied me growing up, all I wanted to do was prove them wrong and make them eat their own words.
What I was failing to realize, though, is that even years after the fact, they were still controlling my life. I was so caught up on trying to prove them wrong that I was letting them take away even more of my life than they already had.
We all experience anger and resentment in our lives. But ask yourself, what good has it done you to hold on to any of it? Odds are it’s only caused you more stress and heartache than anything. But that’s why you need to learn to do your best to forgive.
Letting go is never easy, but realize how you’re feeling now and know that this isn’t how you want to feel for the rest of your life. Do something that many aren’t willing to do, and forgive those that have done you wrong. Remember, as amazing as you are, you have also done some hurtful things to others.
3. Do good for others.
If you want to become a better person, do more good for others. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
One of the things that really helped me feel better about my life was purposefully going out of my way to put a smile on somebody else’s face. Whether it was holding the door open for a stranger or buying their coffee, I made it my goal to positively impact as many lives as I possibly could.
There was something about being able to put a smile on somebody else’s face that made me feel better about myself. I knew that the impact that these acts of kindness had on others was going to be different from person to person, but I just hoped that they would be lifted up and would return the favor to others.
Think about it like the trickle-down effect. When you do good for others, it motivates them to do good for more individuals, and thus the effect begins.
It doesn’t matter what you do or how you do it, just do your best to do good for others. Become a better person by being kind to those around you.
4. Focus on the good.
Is there bad in the world? Absolutely! But there is far more good than there is bad. The reason the bad gets recognized more than the good in life is because we have come to accept the good as normal. When something good happens, we fail to appreciate it for how amazing it truly is.
The point is, focus on the good. Appreciate the good in life, express gratitude towards all of the good that fills your life, and be thankful for all you have in life. You may not have everything you want, but you have far more than you need.
One of the ways I was able to focus on the good in life was with a gratitude journal. Every morning, I did (and still do) write down 5 things I am most grateful for in life. This helps to put positive thoughts at the forefront of my mind, and it helps to set the mood for the rest of the day. A gratitude journal is one of the best, and one of the easiest ways to make strides towards becoming a better person.
5. Be willing to change.
Make the decision right now that you are willing to change to become a better person each and every single day. No ifs, and, or buts, you are willing to take control of your life, and you are willing to create the change you wish to see. That’s what it’s going to take.
You can think about changing your life and becoming a better person all you want, but until you make the decision that you are all in, your life simply isn’t going to change. You may get knocked down or experience setbacks in life, but never give up. No matter how many times you fail, the only time you are truly a failure is when you give up on yourself and on your dreams. Do whatever it takes to ensure that’s not you.
Before You Go
So, let me ask you again, what does becoming a better person mean to you? Are you willing to do what it takes to become a better person and live the life you have always dreamed of living? Then use these tips to help you.
Remember, no matter what stage you are at in life, you are you, and that is your greatest strength.