3 ways to help you get over your fear of failure.
If I were to ask you why you are not going after the things that you want in life, what would your response be? It would probably due to your fear of failure, right?
Don’t worry, it’s not just you, it’s the majority of us. We fear failure enough to where we don’t even try and give ourselves the opportunity to fail because of what we think could go wrong. Not what will go wrong, but what could go wrong.
But why is it that we fear failure in the first place and how do we overcome our fear of failure. While I am not claiming to be perfect (because trust me, there are still times where the fear of failure scares the living daylight out of me), here are some things that have helped me to overcome my fear of failure.
You need to let go of your ego. Ask yourself if you are truly scared of failure itself, or are you more scared of being judged by others, thus hurting your ego? It’s probably not the amount of time and dedication that is required to achieve your goals, but rather how others will think of you if you fail.
What helped me to get over my ego? A few things actually.
The first is realizing that everybody fails when they do something outside of their comfort zone. Failure is normal and everybody experiences it on a daily basis.
The second is something that I often say, but also something that I want to elaborate on a bit. Know that you will never be judged by anybody who is better than you. Aside from that, also know that you will never be judged by someone who has achieved more than you.
Those how are farther ahead of you in chasing their goals understand what it is like to fail. They understand what it is like to take risks on yourselves and how terrifying it can feel. At one point or another, they have felt the way that you currently feel, which is why they will never judge you for at least trying.
You need to fail:
You need to realize that failure is the only way that you are going to move towards the things that you want in life.
Let’s face it, we don’t want to be the same person that we were a year ago, do we? We should want to be better each and every day of our lives.
Well, the only way that we are going to get better is if we are willing to give ourselves the change to fail and learn from our mistakes.
Everything that we want in life lies in the unknown. If we knew how to achieve our goals without having to overcome obstacles along the way, then we would have already achieved them. But if we want more than what we currently have, then we need to do something that we haven’t yet done.
Look, taking risks on ourselves will result in us experiencing failure. And while you may feel like a failure, remember that failure builds knowledge, and knowledge helps to create success. This means that you won’t be able to create success without first experiencing failure, so you better get used to failing if you want to succeed.
There is no worse feeling in the world that they feeling of regret or the feeling of wondering what could have been.
One of the things that has helped me to get over my fear of failure, if the never wanting to look back on my life when I am older and wishing I would have done more of the things that I wanted to with the precious time that I had.
Life is already short enough the way that it is. I am fine with feeling like a failure because at least I will be able to say that I tried and gave myself an opportunity to succeed, as well as an opportunity to improve. But if I were to hide from the fear of failure, then I would have neither. I wouldn’t be able to say that I tried, and I would have nothing to learn and progress from. All I would have is the feeling of regret, and that is a feeling that nobody should have to live with.
The truth is, we can achieve far more than what we give ourselves credit for. Do we really want to wonder what our lives could have looked like if we would have worked towards our goals, or do we want to find out? I don’t know about you, but I want to know. Not only do I want to know how my future will look, but I also want to do everything that I can to create the one that I want to live.
Failure sucks. From someone who has spent a lot of their life focusing on only their failures, I will be the first to tell you that it isn’t worth it. You are truly stronger and worth far much more than any of your failures will amount to, and as long as you believe in yourself and never give up on your dreams, there isn’t anything that you can’t achieve.
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