Life can be incredibly challenging sometimes. There are times when the struggles of everyday life seem too monstrous to overcome, and there are periods in which we go through where we feel as if we will never find happiness again in our lives.
I have gone through this stage in my life before. For me, every fall season starts out difficult simply because summer is coming to an end, and I am also reminded of that one fall when I was diagnosed with depression.
That was an incredibly difficult time for me. I felt alone, hopeless, and like no matter what I did, I would never know what it would be like to be happy again. Even though I had everything that I could ever want, happiness felt like a scarcity.
To be honest, that’s how my life was for a few years. Every time the leaves would start to change and the temperature would start to get cooler, I was instantly reminded of that fall when I was diagnosed with depression and would fall back into a state of even darker depression than I was already experiencing.
Sitting here years later, I am happy that I can look back on that time in my life and know that the dark days are behind me, but during that time, I will admit that I didn’t know if my life would actually get any better or not.
The truth is, we all go through dark times like this. No matter who you are, there are going to be periods in your life where you feel hopeless, helpless, and miserable. As much as it sucks to think about, that’s just a part of life.
But no matter how dark the times may be right now, just know that your past does not define you. Starting today, right this very minute, it’s time that you pick yourself up and reclaim your life. The life that you are living is truly what you make of it, and it’s yours for the taking.
I am here to show you that with hard work and a positive mindset, you can get back to being happy. I am proof of this, and trust me when I say that if I can do it, so can you!
It’s not going to be easy, but I want to share with you one simple tip that helped me to regain happiness in my life.
The one simple tip to get back to being happy is to give yourself your undivided attention.
That’s right, if you want to get back to living a happier life, then you need to be willing to focus solely on yourself before focusing on others.
Sounds pretty easy, right?
How many times, though, do you go through your day trying to help others or trying to please others? While helping others isn’t a bad thing (and in some cases, it can actually be beneficial), trying to please others isn’t going to get you anywhere. You need to completely let go of what other people think about you, and you need to help yourself before helping others.
It may sound selfish to some, but it’s not.
Think of it as being efficient if you will. How are you going to help others if you can’t first take care of yourself? It makes sense, right? If you want to effectively help others and be at your best, then you need to take care of yourself first.
Neglecting your own feelings and emotions is not going to benefit you in any way, shape, or form. It only leads to low levels of self-confidence, illness, stress, regret, broken relationships, and a hatred towards life. Anybody who experiences any of these emotions on a regular basis can tell you how seemingly impossible it feels to ever escape.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Dave Grohl: “No one is you & that is your power.”
If you want to get back to being happy in life, then you truly need to be fully invested in yourself before even thinking about other people.
It is not your job to change who you are to confine to the beliefs of others. Be yourself, love yourself, and know that no matter who you are or the position that you are in, no one is you and that is your power. You are powerful, your feelings are powerful, your voice is powerful, and you don’t need anybody else to tell you differently.
There are going to be times in your life in which you are going to feel better, think that all is well, and then something comes up.
I am going through one of these times right now. It’s times like this where I am reminded to focus on myself and focus on getting back towards the life that I am deserving of. Part of that means by admitting my weaknesses, by willing to be vulnerable, and by prioritizing me before prioritizing others, so that, in turn, I am able to give my very best to those who need it the most.
Your mood is going to fluctuate on a day to day basis. Whatever you do, know that you are worthy of living the life that you deserve to live. Just stay committed to yourself, love yourself for all of your differences, and learn to give yourself your undivided attention until you get back to being happy. It’s going to take time and work, but every worthwhile in life takes time and work.
In case you need a little inspiration as I do right now, here is a post of mine that I have been constantly going back in an effort to help get myself into the right state of mind. It’s been helping me so far, and I am confident that it will help you as well: 6 Personality Traits Of Incredibly Happy People
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