Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself If You Want A Better Life

Don’t let your struggles become your identity.

Sometimes, life just isn’t going to go how you planned. How many times have you heard that before? But think about it. Nobody has a perfect life. No matter who you are, you are going to experience pain, heartbreak, and sadness throughout the course of your life.

Maybe you are trapped in your own thoughts and can’t escape the walls that are slowly caving in inside of your mind. Maybe you just feel unlucky, and it seems like everyone in the world is against you. Or maybe you have had a traumatic experience that is seeming near impossible to shake.

Whatever it is, it’s okay to feel down. At one point or another, we all experience these feelings. At least I know that I do. And to be completely honest, I experience them quite regularly. But ask yourself what good is it going to do feeling sorry for yourself?

See, it is easy for us to feel sorry for ourselves, because then we don’t have to admit that we made a mistake. We don’t have to take ownership for the mistakes that we have made. Instead of taking responsibility for the mistakes that we have made, we try to pin the blame on something, or somebody else.

We might think that our luck is bound to change soon, and that if we get others to feel sorry for us, then we might even get the sympathy that we so desperately crave. But again, ask yourself what good is it going to do feeling sorry for yourself?

The simple truth is that the world is not going to feel sorry for you. Millions, actually, billions of other people in this world that have it much worse than you and I do. There are people who are walking seven miles to get rain water. There are people who are born into extreme poverty and will never know what it feels like to have a full stomach. And there are people who are dying daily due to various diseases and malnutrition. You probably don’t want to think about that, do you? But it is the truth.

Being yelled at by your boss at work doesn’t seem so bad now, does it? Maybe you will even think twice before you let an incorrect order at Starbucks ruin your entire day. See where I am going with this?

I am not saying that these things don’t somewhat suck, but it is not going to do you any good feeling sorry for yourself. It is not going to change the outcome of what has happened, and it definitely is not going to make you feel any better. Sure, maybe in the moment it might provide you with some sense of comfort. But after a few minutes, you are just going to go back to your negative ways. How do I know? Because this was me for years.

I used to spend so much time and energy feeling sorry for myself simply because I wanted others to sympathize with me. I wanted all of the attention that we as humans crave. Good or bad. But the only thing this did, was blind me from focusing on the things that matter. It blinded me from seeing the beauty of life. And trust me, there is so much good to be seen.

You can choose to keep feeling sorry for yourself, but you and I both know that it is not going to make your life any better. The more negative emotions that you allow into your mind, the more you actions are going to reflect those negative emotions, and the more miserable you are going to be. Before you know it, you won’t be able to find any amount of happiness or joy in life.

It is not worth it to feel sorry for yourself. Instead, be grateful for what you have. Cherish the incredible gift of life that you are living, and make the most out of every opportunity that you have in front of you. Believe it or not, we all have a pretty damn good life in front of us.

You have the ability of achieving anything, and you have the opportunity to be anything that you desire in life. So stay positive, work hard, and believe in yourself. This is your one life to live, so make the most of it.

Michael Bonnell

11/10/2018

 

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