I want to share with you something that happened to me recently. More specifically, an obstacle that I was faced with, and how the Everything Is Figureoutable mindset helped me to overcome this obstacle.
I think this is the most that I have ever talked about a book, but it’s because Marie Forleo’s Everything Is Figureoutable is that good. It’s amazing. It’s insightful. It’s inspiring. And above all else, it’s life-changing. It helps you to unlock the power that you have within to solve any obstacle that stands in your way.
That’s exactly what it did for me.
The ‘Everything Is Figureoutable’ Mindset.
I am lucky. There isn’t much in my life that I can complain about. I have a job that I love, a family that I adore, and very few obligations that I need to commit to. A better way to put it is that I have very few responsibilities.
But yet, I still find myself constantly stressed and anxious – especially around money.
During the holiday season, I knew that I was going to be spending a lot of money on gifts for my family. One of the ways that I cope with this thought is by working extra, or by selling stuff around my house that I am not using any longer.
Two years ago, I tried to make extra money by selling an old iPhone. Let’s just say that it didn’t go over so well. Last year I ended up putting in a lot of overtime at my job to help “cover” the cost of gifts. This year, I started delivering groceries on Shipt and went as far as selling a video game console on Ebay for some extra cash.
It’s not like I don’t have money. I save everything, so when I do spend and see that number in my savings go down, I begin to panic and immediately think of ways that I can recoup that money.
Running Into An Obstacle
Two weeks ago, I had the brilliant idea of selling a PlayStation 4 on eBay. I don’t play it enough, and the extra money sounded nice. Originally, I listed it at $250, but as nobody was bidding, I reduced it to $200 just to get it out of my hair.
After a week, somebody finally bought it. I got a box, packed it up, and even went as far as to buy an entire roll of bubble wrap to ensure that nothing would break on the way to the buyer’s house.
A week later, the $200 showed up in my bank account. Part of me though just didn’t feel right. I was $200 richer, but my anxiety was still peaking. I had a bad feeling in my gut that just wouldn’t go away.
Then, two days later, I got an email notifying me that the buyer was disputing the charge as they said it wasn’t working. All of a sudden, that fear that I had in the back of my mind was becoming real.
I contacted eBay, let them know that it was working perfectly when I sent it to the buyer, and even went as far as to wrap it in a ton of bubble wrap. Unfortunately, they said that they couldn’t really do anything and that I had to work it out with the buyer.
Panic began to sink in as I contacted the buyer and asked what happened. Part of me felt as if I was getting scammed, so I was doing everything that I could to ensure that I wasn’t going to be out both the money and the device.
You Will Be Fine. Everything Is Figureoutable
That phrase kept playing over and over in my mind. Every time I heard it, I tried to hold onto it and trust it. I would be fine and everything is figureoutable.
After a few days of going back and forth with the buyer, I offered a solution. I wanted this mess to be over and done with. I asked the buyer to send me a video of the device not working. If, in fact, it was not working, then I would accept the return. If it was working and they were just trying to get both the money and the device, then I would be the one asking for a refund.
The buyer agreed to send me a video. Low and behold, when they sent me the video, the device started to magically work again. Is it a coincidence? I don’t think so, but I also can’t speak on somebody else’s behalf.
Once I had made it through the process of getting everything figured out with the buyer, guess what happened?! My anxiety started to decline.
No longer was I feeling restricted every time I tried to take a deep breath. No longer did I feel fear. No longer did I feel like I would never get this problem figured out.
After some time and some thought, everything became figureoutable. We all encounter stress and anxiety in life, but no matter what, there isn’t anything that we can’t overcome. Just like everything is figureoutable, everything also happens for a reason.
Life is going to present many obstacles along the way. No matter how big or small those obstacles may be, they can all carry an unwanting amount of stress that can impact both your health and your mind.
The next time that you are experiencing one of these obstacles, remember that everything is figureoutable. There isn’t anything that you can’t solve, and using the ‘everything is figureoutable’ mindset will help you to slove down and to act with reason instead of reacting out of emotion.