As we turn the page on 2019, it becomes a popular time to do a lot of reflecting. We reflect on the things that we have accomplished, the things that we are in the midst of trying to accomplish, but most of all, we tend to reflect on the things that we didn’t accomplish.
The majority of the time, it’s not that we tried and failed miserably to accomplish these things. Instead, it comes down to the fact that we didn’t even try.
It leaves us feeling empty – almost as if we just wasted the last year of our life. All of the goals that we set for ourselves at the beginning of 2019 now seem like distant hopeless desires. And instead of revisiting these desires, we disregard them for the failures that they were and come up with other goals that we would rather achieve.
What we fail to realize, however, is that the goals themselves weren’t too monstrous to overcome. Where the real problem lies is within our effort.
If we haven’t yet achieved the goals that we set for ourselves at the beginning of the year, then we simply haven’t put enough time and energy towards achieving these goals. And unless we revisit our goals and all that we are willing to do to achieve our goals, then guess what… 2020 and every year that follows is going to hold much of the same disappointment that this past year may have brought.
While it’s good to be excited to set new goals and to be hopeful for the year ahead, it’s also just as equally as important to reflect on the past year as well. Put this past year in perspective, and remind yourself that no matter what, you can do this!
As I am preparing for the year ahead, I am reminding myself much of the same. While I may not have achieved all that I wanted to, I am learning to let go of the past and direct my attention towards the future.
I want to encourage you to join me in ending your year off on a strong foot with these 6 notes to self, and do everything in your power to create a successful year ahead.
1. Note to self: I am not my failures.
You are going to fail. That’s just part of life. You are going to fail. I am going to fail. We are all going to fail. But no matter how much we fail or how hard we fail, we are not, and never will be our failures.
The only way that we can ever fail in life is if we never learn. There is a saying from Nelson Mandela that goes, “I never lose. I either win or learn.” Even if you don’t win or don’t achieve your goals, if you can come out of it all and can at least say that you learned something, then you are never going to lose.
2. Note to self: I gave my best effort.
As I look back on this past year, I can honestly say that I have worked harder this year than I ever have in my entire life. Sure there are things that I would like and need to improve on. But I can honestly say that I gave my best effort and recognize that I still have more to give. Because of this, I am confident in myself and know that this next year is going to be even better.
Effort is a crucial role in any and all success. You may put in a lot of effort and have yet to achieve your goals, but at least you are giving yourself the opportunity to achieve your goals. Those who never put in the effort will never even stand a chance of turning their goals into their reality.
3. Note to self: I am stronger now than I have ever been.
Another reason why I have actually learned to enjoy failure is because what hasn’t killed me has truly only made me stronger.
The best part about life, and the best part about learning is that we get an opportunity to go after our goals again and again only until we decide to quit. With every failure, we have a chance to learn. With every lesson that we learn, we are only getting stronger. As long as we are willing to get right back up and go at our goals again and again, our strength will only continue to grow until we become victorious.
4. Note to self: Do something today to set yourself up for success.
“Today I will do what others won’t, so that tomorrow, I can do what others can’t.”
This should be your mindset going into each and every single day. But don’t just stop there. Also, challenge yourself to do something that you haven’t done before so that tomorrow you can do what you couldn’t do today.
We can sit and reflect on all that has gone bad in our lives or all that has gone wrong, but this isn’t going to make the present or the uncertain future any better. If we want to achieve goals that we have yet to achieve, then we need to be willing to do something today that we haven’t been willing to do in the past.
5. Note to self: I am in control of my own future.
I am in control of everything in my life. While I can’t always control the environment around me or the actions of others, I am always in full control of my perception. There are things that are just going to naturally happen over the course of our lives, but with every obstacle that we endure, there is always a lesson to be learned.
Life is one big learning experience. Treat every obstacle that you experience as an opportunity to expand your knowledge. Use that knowledge to then grow into a better person than you were yesterday. The more you are willing to learn and grow, the more you will be able to achieve.
6. Note to self: Everything is figureoutable.
Every stage of my life, I am forced to remember that no matter what obstacles I am faced with, and no matter what challenges I may endure, everything is figureoutable.
Seriously, over the course of the last year, my life has changed so much – mostly in ways that I never thought imaginable. Some of the changes were for better, and some were for worse.
But no matter what, I didn’t give up. Now, I am excited to see what the next year will hold. If my life has changed as much as it has over the last year, I am not only curious, but also excited to see where I will be in another year.
While it may take a bit of time (the time that it takes to figure out life isn’t always up to you to decide), always remember that everything is figureoutable. As long as you are willing to work as hard as you can for as long as you can, you will achieve any and all of the goals that you set for yourself.
Nobody is perfect. Nobody ever has been perfect, and nobody will ever be perfect. As we flip the page on 2019 and embrace 2020 with open arms, don’t strive for perfection. Instead, strive to be the best that you can be. Strive to improve who you are as an individual on a daily basis and work towards becoming who it is that you want to be.
Make 2020 the best year of your life. Work harder than ever, follow all of your goals, and live the life that you are meant to live.