Daily Blog #279
One of the hardest things to do is to be able to step outside of your own mind and see yourself from the outside looking in. What I mean by this is, is that we only look at life through our own two eyes. Think about it, out of seven billion other sets of eyes in this world, we only have the ability to see life through one – our own. That is why it is important to embrace constructive criticism.
I received one of the nicest compliments the other day. While the compliment came from my mom, I could tell that she sincerely meant it. She isn’t the type of person to sugarcoat anything, so if I mess up, she will be the first to tell me. When I achieve something, she will also be the first to congratulate me. But this compliment, this was special. She told me that she could tell that I was happy again. How could she tell? Because she didn’t feel that she had to walk on eggshells around me anymore.
Well dang, that might be the most endearing thing I have ever heard.
The sad thing about it, is that it’s true. When I am frustrated and upset, I am not the type of person that you want to be around. We all have our flaws, and one of mine is that I used to have a tendency of carrying my emotions for extended periods of time. Not only that, but I would let my emotions get the best of me, and would explode in a moments notice.
The reason this compliment stuck with me, though, is not only because it came from somebody whom I love dearly, but also because learning to control my emotions is an area of my life that I have been trying to improve on. It felt reassuring to have someone recognize the efforts that I have been making to better myself. And for me, it motivates me even more to continue to make improvements in my life.
I know, I talk a lot about ignoring what other people think about you, and just being your own person. While I still believe that all of us should ignore any of the negative judgements from others and live life how we see fit, I also believe that it is important to embrace constructive criticism. Especially when that type of criticism comes from those who we respect, and those who want nothing but the best for us.
It may seem like I am contradicting myself here, but I just don’t see constructive criticism and judgements as being the same. To me, constructive criticism is when we are given feedback from others on how we can improve and better ourselves as individuals. Things like what we should improve on in order to be a better friend, improvements that we make to be a better sibling, and how we can create a greater impact in the lives of others. Basically anything that we can do to improve our personal life, and the lives of those around us.
Negative judgements… well, nobody really has time for them, nor should we listen to them. Negative judgements are when we listen to others tell us that you aren’t good enough, that we are too skinny or fat, or that no matter what we do, we will never amount to anything. Doesn’t sound very constructive, does it? But for some reason, we listen to this advice more than advice that will actually benefit us. Hey, I get it. I have been there too!
I want you to remember what I am about to tell you. You will NEVER be judged by somebody who is better than you.
When others judge you, they are only doing so because they don’t want you to succeed. They don’t want to see you live a life that they would be jealous of, so they are going to do everything in their power to break you. This includes trying to break you with their words.
Those who give you constructive criticism, those are the individuals who want to see you succeed. Those are the individuals that are going to push and challenge you to become the best possible person that you can be. And those are the individuals that you should be surrounding yourself with. When you surround yourself with people who want you to succeed, guess what happens? Your chances of success skyrocket.
At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you. This is your life, and only your life to live. Listen to the advice from others to determine if it is something that is going to benefit you, or if it is something that you should move on from. From there, focus on making improvements in your life, being the best person that you can be, and living the life that you want to live.
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