Do you ever have those days where you could just crawl back into bed, close the blinds, and sleep? Like all day long?
Yesterday was one of those days. I don’t know what it was, but I just couldn’t seem to wake up. I had so many thoughts swirling in my mind the night before that not even a good night’s sleep was enough to rejuvenate it.
For starters, we are experiencing a global pandemic. If that’s not enough, my state, my city for that matter, is making national headlines for a senseless act that took the life of an innocent man. In being 2,000 miles away, all I can do is watch a city in which I live in literally go up in flames.
As I stand back and watch, I can’t help but wonder what I can do to help “fix” everything. Maybe that’s it… Maybe I need to let go of my never-ending need to “fix” everything and be comfortable and content with simply being.
Your Mind Controls Your Reality
One of my weaknesses is also something that is one of my greatest strengths. No matter what thought passes through my mind, if it grabs my attention, I will sit and constantly think about it. Sometimes this is good as it helps me to find a solution to my thoughts. Other times, I just sit there and drive myself crazy because these thoughts just never seem to go away.
In thinking about all of the events in which the world is facing, I couldn’t help but wonder what more I could have done. I sat there thinking about all of the things I could be doing differently in life, how I’m not doing enough the way it is, and started thinking about what more I could be doing.
Does just thinking about this make you stressed, because it sure as hell makes me stressed.
Well, welcome to the inside of my mind.
Then, as I sat there just thinking, the self-doubt of simply not doing enough, not being enough, and not amounting to enough started to set in. As soon as this happens, my reality begins to change. It becomes more challenging to focus on the good in the world and the good that I have done over the course of my life. All because of this stupid never-ending desire of wanting more.
That’s what happens, though. Not just for me, but for everybody. We all want more out of life. We all thinking about having more belongings, more money, more love, more everything. What we completely fail to realize is that the more we focus on wanting more, the more our minds are going to stop us from actually achieving more.
Don’t Let Your Mind Stop You
The simple truth of the matter is that we don’t need more. While we should always strive to be our best and to challenge ourselves, most of the time when we want more from ourselves, we are doing so just for the likings and approval of others. That, or we need to feel wanted.
What happened to just being? What happened to simply going with the flow and being the best version of ourselves that we could be? What happened to already being proud of who we are and what we have already accomplished?
I mean think about it, if we all focused on being the best versions of ourselves, would there even be this need or desire to be more in the eyes of others? No, because if we became the best version of ourselves that we could possibly be, we would be better and stronger than we could have ever imagined. The only reason we aren’t is because when we reach a certain threshold, we become content. This threshold isn’t based on our abilities, it’s based on where everybody around us is at in their lives. When we don’t think we can possibly go any farther, we are actually only reaching 40% of our true potential.
Personal growth doesn’t have a cap or a limit in which we max out at, but we act as though it does. We have become so fixated on competing against others instead of competing against ourselves. Or we become fixated on achieving more than others instead of achieving more than we did the day before. The more we live in this competitive mindset, the more we are only stopping ourselves from truly growing into our best selves and making the most out of our lives.
What Can You Do?
It’s challenging to do, but don’t let your mind stop you.
If only it was that easy, right?
In all seriousness, learn to accept yourself. That’s probably the best thing you can do for yourself in every situation.
Acceptance doesn’t mean that everything is perfect in life. It means realizing everything is the way it is for a reason, whether you like that reason or not. You can’t change what has happened, so why add the added stress of trying to? Simply learn to accept your past for what it is, learn to accept yourself for who you are, and simply move on with your life.
Don’t let your mind stop you from achieving all of your goals and dreams. Let go of the need to compete with others and compete with yourself instead.
When you start thinking about all of your failures, try to focus on all of your accomplishments.
When you start to doubt your abilities, try to focus on your strengths.
When you start to focus on the negatives, do your best to shift your mind onto the positives.
Is this going to work every time? No. And when they don’t, simply learn to accept that and let it be. Nobody expects you to be perfect. Learn to just be. Be proud of you and be proud of what you have already accomplished.
Before You Go
The point is, we all need to do a better job of accepting ourselves for who we already are. When we try to force our way through life and control every little situation, our minds are only going to stop us. But when we learn to accept ourselves and be one with our minds, our minds will turn into our strongest assets.
Be you, be happy to be you, be happy with what you have already achieved throughout your life, and don’t let your mind stop you.