Don’t ever change.

Don’t ever change. These are three words that I have really come to despise.

Why is it that people often times say “don’t ever change who you are,” or “Continue to do what you are doing.”

Am I really that cool where people don’t want me to change who I am? I mean, that was never the case before, so how can that be the case now? What happened where people now think of me so differently?

Well, oddly enough, it is because I changed… I changed from the person that I was years ago. I changed and started following my own beliefs instead of the beliefs of others. And I changed by actually starting to believe in myself instead of listening to the judgement of others.

See, changing your current situation is part of learning. It is part of growing who you are as an individual, and it is part of finding happiness and success in your own life. If you don’t ever change who you are, then your life is never going to change?

So, if change is good, then why is it that we don’t like it? What is it about change that we hate so much?

The reason that we don’t like change is because we are scared. We are scared because we have found a certain pattern, or a certain feeling of comfort, and we don’t want to lose that sense of comfort. At least that is why I don’t like change in my life.

For years, I hated and feared the thought of changing anything about my life. I found what I was comfortable with, and wanted to stick with it. I hated any type of change in my daily schedule. Whether it was changing the foods I was eating, or changing the workouts that I was doing. Mainly, I just hated the thought of not having full control.

When things around us are changing, that is exactly what we are losing. We are giving up any amount of control that we do have in life.

But if we don’t ever change our current situation, nothing about our lives is ever going to be different. If we don’t ever change, we will never grow as humans, we will never seek new opportunities, and we will never know what could have been in our lives.

Don’t be scared of change. Instead, learn to embrace it. Odds are that change in your life is going to do more good for you than bad.

If you are continuing to fail in life, you aren’t going to do the same thing that brought you failure. You are going to change. If what you are doing today is not getting you to where you want to be in life, you aren’t going to do the same thing tomorrow. You are going to change. At least I hope so.

If I didn’t change from the person that I used to be, I would still be missing out on memories. I would still be living the same boring life that I was forcing myself to live, and I would still be miserable. Doesn’t sound like too much fun, does it? Well, that’s what my life had become.

But because I changed, I have grown in more ways than I can possibly imagine. I have learned to love myself, I have learned to follow my dreams, and I have learned that I am capable of anything. All because I changed.

So don’t listen to the people who tell you to don’t ever change. Change your life to how you want your life to be. Change your beliefs by how you want to be remembered. And change to make an impact on the world. Become the person that you want to become, and live your life how you want to live it.

Michael Bonnell

8/21/2018

 

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